Steve Followup to Hadyn on How to Leave Settled Comfort


Gadget

Steve Followup to Hadyn on How to Leave Settled Comfort


AlwaysRt

The definition of comfortable I was using was about the people, weather, price, and ability to communicate. Not about stuff, which is just stuff (which in Hong Kong included a washing machine but not here). I guess the answer to my question of why do you leave a place you love is once you have explored the people in an area and the conversations start repeating themselves it's time to go? This is magnified in Pana by the noticeable lack of potential mates.

I can see that happening here, however at 6 weeks or so (I don't really keep track of time - except for my Visa expiration) I am still in the "honeymoon stage".


Gadget

I leave for 100's of reasons, I do not stay for 100's of reasons, whether I stay, or leave is only important to me, the only reason to answer this question is to help others by provoking them to think, as for me, the questions about settle, or comfort, or domestic living is irrelevant to me, I really do not care to know the answer, so I do not have any good answers for this question. But, I cannot imagine staying anywhere, and maybe others cannot imagine leaving. Thinking about the past, or the future is pissing all over today. When I ask myself too much why I am here, I would leave, asking myself the question means it time to leave. I will repeat this, never met anyone who wanted to listen to me at full speed, and have slowed myself down for the last 20 years so people can tolerate me, so it is easy to leave for me.


AlwaysRt

OK, well that is the answer then, you leave when you start wondering why you are staying. Makes total sense to me, the trigger is irrelevant, only the recognition of it being time to go matters. Thanks!

I suppose my real question was "How do I know when it is time to leave? What indications should I look for so I don't waste time staying longer than I should?" Since you can't answer that for me, I asked how you know so I could interpolate into an answer for me. Turns out you have the perfect answer for everyone "Don't worry about it, when you start wondering why you are there, then it's time to go." Great! Perfect simplicity, I love it.

I'm going back to not caring what day it is (except for Visa but my phone will remind me so don't really think about that either) and barely caring what time it is (for contacting people who are "on the clock", and knowing if the resto/store/market/laundry/spa is open).

Have a great one Andy!


Gadget

We need to study the idea of wasting time, and wasting money, most people cannot leave the USA because they would lose money on their home, thus wasting money. I can only dream people would realize how painful it is to me, to listen to a person with a home, or who rented an apartment, bought a car, made a room reservation, rented an apartment by the month, or purchased a house abroad. I know the power of concept waste, few, almost none can muster the power to just give it all away and leave. Mom Graham was asking, what are you going to do with your van? I had a 2500 USD van, finally I called Brad, my nephew, and signed the van over to him, gave it to him for free, he finally sold it, and bought a washer and dryer for my sister, his mom. Can a person lose 1000, or 10,000 dollars, or does our need to hoard own us? Reservations for more than 1-3 days to me is a waste of my life. Renting an apartment for more than 50 USD per month is waste of my life. People cannot imagine buying a home now to live in, it would be the end of my life, slow suicide, a jail cell, way more than I want to watch, to care for, to think about, we need to keep busy, and these purchase are ways of thinking, staying busy, so we do not introspect.


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