Andy Lee Graham Makes Decision to Move Abroad, After Living Abroad 20 Years
Some good thoughts, and some interesting ones. But doing it to be part of a tribe has never been the issue in my mind. I've moved places to find out what the people are like--I can't know in advance. The place I currently live has some nice people and some I dislike. I don't feel a tribal relationship to any of them. When we lived in Cambodia, Hong Kong, and Venezuela, a sense of community developed around us, as we got to know people and they got to know us, but I've never felt the urge to defend any government in the US or abroad, so many of your concerns don't resonate with me. Also, you are making the assumption that moving abroad is some ultimate, irrevocable decision. It isn't. You can move to a different place if one doesn't work out. You can move back to the US. You can take everything with you, or almost nothing with you (we've done it both ways.).
There is yes, no, and maybe, clarity and serenity is hard to achieve with a maybe. When a person follows me for years, they learn I do not care what others think of me, or about me, at least very little. My job is allowing others to look over my should, listen as I worm around, making decision, this allow viewers, and readers to clarify their own decisions. The mission is never to convince, or really even to explain clearly on life changing ideas. More, to expose my confusions so viewers can become less obtuse in their decision. Clarity of talk on videos is usually a sale pitch, truth is always ambiguous. Here is an example, there are people that ask me, "Andy, will you live the rest of your life without drinking alcohol?" My best answer is, "I will know only on the day I die." What we do abroad, or don't do abroad is really irrelevant, what is super relevant is how we feel about the decisions. Yet, humans are for the most part incapable of explaining feels, admitting, or thinking as feeling animals, we wish to reason, and deny feeling. Yet, we can use, or try to grasp, the 4-5 questions I posed. !. Do I want my children to be raised in New York City? No 2. Do I want my son to use a toothpick? 3. Do I want to live in a Christian country? 4. Do I need to respect the people of a country? 5. Do I want become a citizen of another country? As for what we defend, that is almost like saying, we don't take sides. Not really true, we just refuse to put our choices on the block to allow others to criticize. -- My job is to put opinions on the block to be exposed, some with learn, others will run, but when a person elicits an opinion, I indeed did my job well. And, as Wade Shepard says, "Andy, when you get hate mail, you did your job excellent." Hate mail means, the anonymous person think I was talking one on one with them LOL
I don't disagree with your premise at all. I love the way you stir the pot with questions--it spurs thought. My point was more that each person will have (and should have) different questions and priorities. Your questions are exactly right for you... proven by the fact that they came to mind. I have quite different ones, and as a result, would make my own choices. That doesn't make either of us wrong and, in fact, because we ask the questions (more than once and in more than one situation) we are both right... we are making the best decisions we can, based on the best answers we can find to our questions.