Understanding of a tourist location starts the first day you are bored, it is when you take off the rose colored glasses.
When did you become bored with your wife or husband?
On that day, you either started taking the path toward divorce, or you accepted that love is not alway great "Bed" time.
Tourists often say to me,
"How can you be bored with X location?
With malace for none, and charity for all, I try to say nothing, I want to change the subject. Tourist run around in a frenzy, they are always excited, they are having a orgy of excitement for two weeks and they go home. I want to stay out of the orgy, overexcited children full of curiosity, yet very little true understanding.
If we love our mate, we learn to appreciate the boring times. And the same is true for the best places to live abroad. Generally, a tourist location is a horrible place to live abroad, it is a good one night stand, and a horrible love affair.
Love starts on the first day we are bored, true appreciation for all the small things.
When a person is bored, I am happy, maybe they leave.
Many people work all their lives to avoid being bored, they need to stay busy, it is the truly creative, imaginative, and willing to work people who are never bored.
Working is a sad solution to boredom, working on a hobby is a great one.