God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.. I use the Serenity Prayer as a way of making decisions.
I think in any society or culture there are times when the bullies feel they can go out and steal. The biggest bully came from Germany or Austria, his name was Hitler, Europe is the champion of bullies. The second maybe was from your neighborhood, Pol Pot, in Cambodia. Saddam is from Iraq, and he was a mass murderer.
Rwanda killed 800,000, and is a nothing compared to the 50 Million of the whites in Europe because of WW II.
In Cote d'Ivoire, the Islam is going to take over the country, and the Christians will be forced to flee, it will go from a 52 percent Islam to about 85 percent, as Islam spreads from the Sahel down to the ocean. More or less this is just a religion being used for profit.
Most wars are about money, then they use religions to inspire the people.
Interesting analogy about tackling her to get her off the tracks of death short and valid and truthful. Recently within the last few years I created my own serenity prayer "Time will Tell " and "It's ONLY Money" which makes me relax and slow my mind's thoughts going at lightning speed around and around but not always somewhere when real decisions are made.
Though I can't claim to be your friend yet I have noticed the same thing your old friend from Indiana expressed even though I didn't know you before you started traveling. The one time you called me in the Philippines your voice and attitude were lighthearted with more of a "life's a joke" carefree state of mind. One common point among many new generation "straight edged" people and older "ex- alchies" and "ex-addicts" is a more serious perspective about living life on a daily basis. I've noticed with myself during those periods of time that I've chosen NOT to get loadedmankind since the beginning of time has sought to alter his / her consciousness with a variety of substances helping him/her to escape or explore themselves outside of their and the people they live amongst daily routines.
Your "what my friends want from me?" sounds a little like "with friends like these who needs enemies" but I know what you mean the 2 words "friend(s)" and "Love" are probably thE most misused words in the dictionary. Reminds me of a guy in LA's defintion of "friends" "people who take up space near me between life and death". HARDCORE typical LA
The radio show was good. Though I would recommended uploading the sound file to the site and add a play button so that you can listen to it on the page. It is my impression that people are a little reticent to click on a link and download something.
Hi Andy, would you still have asked Bah to go with you to Ghana if the Ivory Coast was safe?
quote..I had the wisdom to know that by coming to Ghana, Bah would leave Ivory Coast and be safe, and I could end my worry. Bah is out of Ivory Coast, my worry has stopped,
No, I would not be in Ghana if Bah was safe in Ivory Coast. I weighed it up, for 1000 US Dollars, I would know a friend of mine would not die. I want you to realize this was in many way very selfish on my part, I did not want to think about this for the rest of my life. I did not want to gamble with my thoughts or what ifs.
If she died, and I could have prevented it, I would be sitting around for the rest of my life dwelling on the what if, some would say it is noble, some would say it is selfish, bottom line, 1000 USD is nothing to me.
Two months is nothing to donate to one person.
Now, if you told me I needed to donate two months and live in Cairo, I may well let someone die, but Ghana is great and Cairo, Egypt is hell for me, but could be heaven for you.
How much money are your friends life's worth?
I think $1000 is a cheap price to pay to avoid troubling thoughts and regrets for the rest of your life. That kind of stress can kill you. I hope that you can help her find a solution to avoid danger.
If after your honest attempts to help her reason it out, and she decides (as an adult) to go back, then I think you have done your best.
Andy, I think your friend who described you leaving situations that annoy you is very telling. You probably come into contact with so many strangers in your life compared to the average person, that you have developed that behavior as a defense mechanism.
I was on house arrest for a year because of a DWI, while on house arrest I learned I needed to make myself happy.
There are people who want to be made happy.
There are people who make themselves happy.
The first priority of making yourself happy is the removal of annoyances, it is not the search for fun.
Travel has super magnified this ability and I have become intolerant of people promising to provide or give me something. There is almost daily somebody giving me an excuse on why I need to wait, or the promise of the future.
I wanted a chair and table for my room here in Ghana, the manager promised to get one. I waited until this morning, then went and took one from common area, normally I do not wait at all, I do it now. Do not wait for people, they seldom perform their promises.