I am the frustrated one and trying to always adapt, they locals in Togo are very happy. It is quite natural for their culture to talk direct and be confrontive, and when an India buy of 120 pounds does it, who care. When a six foot three 200 pound guy here in Africa is confrontive, there is some inner strength needed.
Standing up to a boss sometimes take more guts, most people allow themselves to be in situations where someone has the upper hand and can abuse.
I know that I will always be ok, I survived a few horrilbe situations in my life.
1. I am not going to lie for money.
2. I am not going to lie to make people happy.
If a person can avoid these two temptations, then the road to happiness is a four lane highway.
How to put a monkey on your back?
1. Lie to make money.
2. Lie to make people happy.
That is a horrible weight to carry around unless you are derange or a sociopath, then you have no guilt and not a big deal... hehehe
A few questions...
Why is it spiritually wrong to try to avoid pain?
How do you know it is easier and more simpler for women in Africa?
Why is it wrong to lie to people to make them happy.
Interpret the above any way you wish, the answer you find is yours.
"People sometimes seem to think I am "less spiritual" because I have not been to India and am a "yoga" person."
Oops, you get five demerits for not going to India.
i do not pay much attention to other people and spiritual and religious stuff. I refuse to go to Yoga classes, because nobody lets me enjoy the stretch without some type of psycho babble.
Yoga is a great way to meet women in India.
I think so-called spiritual people are very argumentative, and best to be avoided. I like to hang around rogues, they are sometimes more honest in their intentions.
Note, I do NOT think of myself as a spiritual person, I am just trying to do my best. There is some alcoholic jargon here, so many layers of word usage to understand and many allusions.
I do think it is funny, you are not spiritual because you did not go to India and smoke dope and act crazy.
Good post. I would say there are many different types of Monks. The inner strength required to live the ascetic life, counsel people in the world and possibly write taut/timeless Spiritual material is of the highest calling that I can of. I am thinking of the Christian "monk" perspective though.
I understand what you are saying about being tested daily in an often brutal world. However, when you get right down to it is really a test of inner spirit.
"The religious adhere to doctrines not of their own revelation.
Since it is an adopted belief, they have a position to defend."
There is a desire to defend God, like he somehow needs help. There is a desire to defend doctrines. All this is faith and an opinion, so a person could talk to forever defending something that at the end of the day is a leap of faith.
A good challenge, creates clarity of thought, once your on the other side of the challenge, you know your opinion rather clearly.
I think the good Gods have a great sense of humour, truly there is some pancakes in the audience.
"When a persons spirituality is built on personal revelation, the opposite is the case.
They have zero cause to argue or evangelize, as this would constitute imposing a revelation upon others."
I'm not too keen on people evangelizing that should not be evangelizing....but......
Dogwash. I can think of a million different "personal" revelations that ended in complete systemic catastrophe. Possibly, religion is there to guide one not to fall into reinventing the wheel, prideful "revelations" that end in delusions and a general framework for spiritual health.
There is a notion of fellowship that can be real spirituality.
"For those that believe an ancient text will help them and others somehow
I'd say It was relevant for those that wrote it, and none other,"
Really? There is a notion of timeless truths and morals.
Andy, where did you get this moral compass? I would imagine from your religious Christian family.
I come from a Christian Family, my Mother, Father, Sisters, and Brother all believe being a good person is the goal in life.
I am grateful my parents are good, as a straw poll traveling the planet, it is painful to realize that ony 1 in 50 people come from a good home.
At least a home that is happy enough, good enough to say Hello to people, with no need for a reward.
49 percent of people say Hello because it is expectd or they think they can sell me something, the one person just wants to be nice.
My family is the 1 in 50 that is nice.
I do not give a shit where you learn to be spritual or good, the bottom line is I look at your face, I look for a smile. I look into your eyes, and I want to find my family. I want to see my mothers kindness inside of you. This is home, this is me, and know many people were not lucky.
I love my Parents, I am who I am, because of them. I am not sure about Religions, they have an uncanny way of being self-serving.
"I do not give a shit where you learn to be spritual or good, the bottom line is I look at your face, I look for a smile."
hrmm, I don't believe you mean this. There is a quite a difference in the spiritual "new ager", Islamic, cult-of-personality, Christian, Buddhist, etc. I think all devils can have a cunning smile and make one feel good.
I would venture this known kindness you are referring comes from your Family's Christian morals and upbringing - of which - the your Family's religion was the vehicle to help get there.
Sure there are a lot of flaws in humans practicing "religion", but if implemented properly- from the Christian perspective - it is infinitely beneficial for all in and around that sphere. I guess that Pride and hypocrisy (form of pride) always gets in the way -- it is a constant inner battle.....
I have been reading your blog for over 13-14 (at least my computations) years. Man, I am getting old. Was just wondering where this disdain was coming from?
I believe a good person can feel other good people around them, and can see this by looking in peoples eyes.
Religions is God having a sense of humour, he wants people to look and learn to see good. Religions are just a different wrapping around people. Gods sense of humour lies in his ability to hide the good people in plain sight, then he want us to learn to see people as they really are, not as some preconceived opinion tells us.
I asked these questions cos you brought up topics that i myself have been thinking about recently and I'm interested to hear what your thoughts are. These days I have been trying to avoid pain and fill "my world" with things that bring me happiness. I have a feeling this "plan of action" is doomed to fail - life dishes out what it will and I have so little control over that. But I do have control (maybe) on how I deal with those things. Was wondering why YOU think it's spiritually wrong to avoid pain.
Also I'm one of those people who "tell it like it is" and have found that this often makes me difficult for people to cope with. Recently I've been trying to limit my honesty and teach myself how to white lie - it relates to my first point - if I tell a white lie or say nothing then I don't get a bad or angry reaction (the kind of reaction that tends to upset me) therefore "my world" remains a happier place.
I (sort of) shamefully admit I included the question about women in africa having a less hard time than men cos I'm a woman in africa !!
Also I want to say that I enjoy your blog and I suppose I posted the questions just to say hello and "meet" you :)
Now there is a real person, I thank you.
There is nothing wrong with avoiding pain, unless you lie or do something false to avoid, then you diminish or lose pride.
A lie hurts the self-esteem of the person lying,
A white women has it easier in Africa than a white man, mainly because African men are sexist and do not take women as a threat. While a white man can threaten their territory.
If you are Black Africa, then life can be rough for a woman, more than the men.
Yes is yes and no is no, this means when you answer a person just answer directly with editing.
Well, we can disagree. Seems a little simple to lump all religions together.
BTW, I am a real person! Not one of those bots...happy travels my man.
"Seems a little simple to lump all religions together."
This is why I feel God has a sense of humour.
He allows and gives all these religions.
I am "grouping" or "lumping" together all the people who are good.
I believe there is small group of good people on the planet.
Maybe 1 in 50 belongs to this group. As I am walking around the world, I encounter 49 people who are confused, frustrated, selfish, and angry. However, as I say Hello to 49, I can find the one in 50 who is of good spirit.
Do I need to know which religion, not really, I do not care.
All religions give this Doctorine, we are the ONLY one.