20 Signs Your Friend Is a Con Man or Scams People

Many of your friends are running confidence games, or scams on people, they are not to be trusted friends, but normally funny.

I am a little angry, and upset when my friends, family, and colleagues are abused by con men. I find myself hiding in my cave, trying to keep my eyes, ears, and mouth shut, the number of cons and scammers are growing, it is epidemic. I am also avoiding former acquaintances as more adopt corrupt thinking, and behavior.


Con Men

 "I think crime pays. The hours are good, you meet a lot of interesting people, you travel a lot."
- Woody Allen from the movie Take the Money and Run (1969)

"Obviously crime pays, or there'd be no crime."
- G. Gordon Liddy

I have never been a father, but I am sure of this, my Father and Mother made me who I am today, and I am proud of my parents.

However, writing travel tips is a fatherly form of writing, I do feel responsible to my anonymous, and unknown readers. I feel like a father to many readers, and truly want to disown the majority of the children. I am always annoyed with travel tips that sell products, this is scammy.

I believe that 99 percent of people will lie to make money, and I am quite sure that 99 percent of Travel Writers are willing mislead to make money, and 99.99 percent of people who own web sites manipulate, lie, more or less are working to create confidence tricks.

The majority of people who do well on the Internet want to create clever ways to convince readers they are trustworthy, they sell confidence, they are specialist in the confidence tricks.

These people have the best looking sites, with no grammar errors, hehehe

The Internet is the perfect Medium for Con Men and Scams

It is difficult for the average person to lie face to face, their body language, tone of voice and actions will give them away. However, on the Internet, the liar can always put forth a plausible, wonderful, and believable representation of their business. They can create confidence with no way for you to check them out, and Facebook is the champion medium.

Using photos and written word on the Internet is the perfect medium to run scams on people. People steal photos, so they can steal your confidence, they steal words, so they can steal your confidence.

Scam Defined:
A confidence trick is an attempt to defraud a person or group by gaining their confidence. A confidence artist is an individual operating alone or in concert with others who exploits characteristics of the human psyche such as dishonesty and honesty, vanity, compassion, credulity, irresponsibility, naivety and greed.

My Logic:
I have weird logic compared to all my friends, I figure if I can avoid the idiots in life, what remains is true genius. Often we fail to trust people who make many errors, and fall for the confidence games, we naturally like people who are always positive, and feel great. Being Loved by all is the sign of a con man, good people are 50/50 liked, they make enemies of the evil, and are respected by the good.


20 Characteristics that are Tell Tale Signs your Friend is a Scammer 

1. Your friend will talk about an issues to you, so other people can overhear to try to gain confidence.

2. Your friend does not include all people in the conversation, he or she does not want a just world.

3. Your friend does not say his or her full name, he or she segregate friends from other friends, so they cannot compare notes or discover lies.

4. There is no easy way to hold them responsible, or have them go to jail for their lies.

5. Inconsistent pricing, they give great deals to special friends, and horrible deals to others, they do not believe in justice. Giving you a good deal, and others a bad deal, is sucking up to you, they buy confidence.

6. The confidence person will hang out with experts when possible, to try to get people to trust them. I have many people make comments on the Blog, in the effort to convince readers, that the person making the comment, is the same as me.

7. Third party recommendations, confidence men will try to get reviews from non-experts as if that has value.

8. Confidence men come across as humble, lovable, and your best friend, they personable, they prey on naive emotional needs of humans.

9. Scammers refuse to discuss it how scams work.

10. Scammers seldom disagree, they go along, except to bully to create their group of cronies.

11. They never explain complicated, and difficult ideas, this would make people nervous, they give simple, clean explanations, to keep you feeling confident.

12. Confidence tricks work on the Internet, the person writes as an expert, with no proof, or validation, they announce they are an expert on day one.

13. Scammers try to get groups of people to agree, they know that people will go along with the group. This is the like on Facebook, this is the Google Plus, it is a way for scams to thrive.

14. Everybody laughs, and enjoys a scammers, he or she is everyones best friend, they are often the center of attention.

15. Write reviews that are always nice.

16. Web scammers buy photos to distort reality.

17. Web scammers use photoshop to distort photos.

18. Scammers will agree with common and trendy angers of the mob.

19. Scammers will have fictitious degrees and awards.

20. Scammers put up a shingle that says they are expert.

I am going to stop here.

Try to have real live, in person relationships, the Internet is helpful, but never to be trusted, the bigger the group, the better the liar. The mob or group is almost always wrong on the Internet.

I really want people to study body language, and words that make you feel good.

There are so many feel good articles on the Internet now, that truth is considered obnoxious and despised.

This like and plus thing on the Internet is the meat and potatoes thing of scammers, anything that can be gamed, is gamed by scammers.


Andy Graham


I tend to agree with Andy though I'm not certain of the high percentage given. After visiting Aruba a few years ago I was very disappointed and went on line to their various sites to say why.
After a week or so they banned me for writing the truth (as I saw it). I wanted to go to a Carribean island that had a Euro life style which I was assured by their sites was what they really had, Dutch.
It was pleasent, wonderful activities and beaches, food was good and the weather great. What it wasn't was a "really Dutch" life style.
I basically wrote it has a possible chance of maybe becoming the 51st state in the U S. Good food very Americanized, English was more or less the 1st language, the hotels and many co-op rental/owner condos filled mainly with Americans. Very few foreign people with Germans and Dutch the main ones, the dollar was basically the main money used and all in all it was somewhat boring. I could have just as easily went to Florida, Hawaii, etc for a lot less cost.
The local people were wonderful, fantastic. Do not bother going to Aruba if you want other than an American holiday.
What is the scam here? I condider it as false advertising, it's a streatch but for what it cost me I was not a happy tourist.

I have experienced many scams while traveling and it pays to avoid them. Another one many novice travelers get hooked into is currency exchange on street corners and bars, etc. They will give you a super exchange rate and tell you the reason they can do so is because they work on a vast volumn. NOT! Ofte they will give you conunterfiet money, some quick slight of hand and so on.
I saw one that set up a customer in China and as soon as he made the exchange another (partner?) came running up hollering run, run the police are coming. Everybody ran except the poor scammed customer. No police came. I went over to the person and asked if I could see some of the Yuan he got. He exchanged $1,000, approx Yuan 6300 official, and I did not look at it all but some was phoney, very easy to tell. I told him he better find out what was no good at a bank and not try to spend it as the Chinese are just about all very knowledgeable as what is real and what is not.

So as usual be careful when you travel.


Government scam out does all others by a thousand to one... constant travel avoids most of that... that was a good plan Andy. Your policy of spending minimal money avoids the rest.

You have been a good example.


I hope the numbers are lower, but being in Nepal it seems you aren't exaggerating by much. You think someone is one way and then find out there was some serious prejudice because you're white skinned. On the internet they just want from anyone but in person they want from the white/tourists. It hurts more when it's personal like that.

What they do is isolate you, ingratiate you into trusting and relying on them and as soon as I let down my guard I get lied to, things missing, loans not paid back, advance on pay a day before they quit, I've had it all. But it's all micro money here, so it only hurts my pride. Imagine someone being with me for six months and after they are no longer welcome in my employ I text to please return my missing credit card, I get this text, "I think you are mad." I am literally on my 9th personal assistant in less than two years in Nepal. I've been asking myself what I'm doing wrong, but I think it's a numbers thing and by your statistics I only have 90 assistants to go before I get one I can trust.

I really think it is the cultural issue here. Even though I would need to get a full time job to support myself in the US, I am still rich with a retirement income of just about what a doctor makes here. So they think I'm rich and can never run out of money and it costs more for me to live here than the locals. It is really difficult to live in another culture without being cheated on a pretty regular basis. They have the 'home town advantage' just like in football.

But you are so right about the internet. All the scammers screaming and spamming it makes people with legitimate products being dismissed by default. So people do the research on the web and buy local, which is the best way to do it, but it makes it a lot more difficult to do business on the web. I think those with legitimate products offered on the web need to have better deals and products than can be offered locally or they will be out of business. It's like when I worked in advertising, the question merchants need to have a good answer to is, "Why should someone buy from me instead of someone local?"

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