My Father has prostate cancer that moved into his back, he is doing a special treatment at the Simon Cancer Center 200 Miles from home in Orland, Indiana.
I drove my Mother and Father from Orland to Indianapolis, Indiana to the Simon Cancer Center.
My Father, Jerold Graham will have this treatment:
"Sipuleucel-T with concurrent versus sequential administration of baritone acetate plus predisone in men with metastatic castrate resistant prostate cancer."
Dr. Noah Hahn MD
Indiana University Cancer Center
535 Barnhill Drive Suite 473
Indianapolis, IN 46202
Phone: (317) 944-0920
--- Lance Armstrong went to the IU cancer center, or somehow was helped.---
This cost more than any normal family can afford.
My parents did everything correct, they graduated from school, they were good loyal factory workers. My mother worked at Dana until they closed the factory, my father worked at the Litton factory until they closed the factory. Both did what the American culture told them to do. Go to church, be good people, pay you taxes, and try to be good people.
They just celebrated their 60 wedding anniversaries, my mother was cheerleader, and my father one of the best baseball players ever seen in Steuben county. Five children that all went to college, life is good, family reunions with swarms of children.
Can any American plan ahead for this expense... ?
Cancer is often curable if you have enough money, brains, and are willing to do what you got to do.
Grahams live to be between 90-95 years old, my father is 79, he has about 10 more years on the board.
I know that American ingenuity can solve the world problems, I just hope that the self-serving desires of the group, the mainstream public profit-making animals can stop.
--- Melvin Simon --- Developers of Shopping Malls
I appreciate the extremely rich in America.
Thank you Melvin and Ben Simon, who probably donated the money to build this cancer facility.
I kept hearing the name, the "Simon Cancer Center," and I remember my real estate research, when I was a broker in Indiana. Simon is or was the biggest "Mall" developer in the world, I believe. He was based in Indianapolis, and he is smart, rich, and gave back to his people.
Thank you Bill Gates for doing the Malaria research.
Thank you Warren Buffet for giving billions.
Thank you Andrew Carnegie for giving he libraries I will visit on this USA Road Trip.
My parents are good people, I am because of that, I am good people.
There is a growing malady on the planet, where people celebrate the clever idiots like Mark Zuckerberg the founder of Facebook, he is a sociopath at heart. He is willing to dumb down the American public so he can make money, he is willing to take advantage of common people like my parents, who will never understand what he is doing.
The USA can solve cancer, how to fuel cars cleanly, how to employ the people of the planet, and how to slow down war, or at least the USA can do some heavy lifting.
It is by doing what is right, not by doing what is profitable.
Thank you again Simon.
Andy Lee Graham, the son of Jerold and Sharry Graham from Orland, Indiana. I am extremely proud to be from this small farm community, which is a shining star on the planet, and I have seen 90 of the countries, only 162 more to go.
I strive to tell you what you need to hear about the planet, to chronicle the real world, not to sell you what you do not need.
Thanks again, Andy Lee Graham
The time to become a philanthropist is today, just pretend every day that you are part of the extremely rich, and you do not need money.
Now on this subject you are passionate ,that's what I expect to read PASSION . The sad truth about America is as a group collectively we will not say NO in a focused fashion .No to out sourcing ,no to goods from China no to injustice, no to bad health care .no to things that dont work . All the things you wished for here are possible if we just say No to the BS that our government tells us . Its time maybe to stop believing and start doing some thing on our own .Your story Andy is not unique ,across this great land others are in the same boat . There is a common thread binding all these good people together "they believed " Perhaps this is the story of America that you should tell. I believe this story exists on every street in America and no one is telling it . I can feel the power of your words and your conviction that things can and should be better . The only thing left now is to make it so.
Thank you, truly I am afraid of my own passion, I am more than willing to bite to get something done. I believe in America, and at the same time ashamed when people strive to be clever, and not do the next good thing.
I am on medicare with no significant savings... the $500+ co pays are more than I can afford for the basic CAT scans etc needed.. that is if I don't want to die broke for those ever accumulating costs that can skyrocket if any problem is found. So I am skipping those tests, and I may well die a little sooner than i would otherwise.
None of us live forever though. I am ready to go without protest when the time comes. Even with half a million dollars in the bank, it is not enough for many of the life extending measures that are available today...
with Obama care people over 70 in many cases will be given only pain relief care, not a million dollar 'cure' or transplant etc.. that will only allow many to keep hobbling along or gasping for breath a few more years... and I am in agreement with the approach.
A nation cannot afford to spend limitless money to extend the last few years of a persons life.. and often resulting in those last few being miserable years at that.
Best we should live hard, then die when the time comes. That's my take on it at least.
I do however spend money and effort and research on preventive measures, most have worked very well. I've been ahead of my time on more than a few of them. Still, when the train of destiny arrives, I will hobble my butt on board without hesitation, maybe I will look back for an instant or two.. but I will be ready to depart.
Kahil Gibrans book 'the Prophet' has been one of my favorites in that regard. So has Don Juan matuse's advice to let death be ones adviser.
My heart and best wishes however go out to you and your father and mother.. we owe the rest of life, everyone, and the dogs and cats and even the gold fish, the trees, the grass and all the bugs... our heartfelt good wishes. .. especially the innocents. I think many of the good people in Indiana feel the same way.
Those of us who have not always been so innocent, and lived by the sword in so many aspects, will die that way...and that too is a fair and square deal.
The sad reality is we have become like the devices in our lives. If they cost to much to fix we send them to the land fill . That appears to be our future as well. No matter how I try I can not argue against this. It makes no sense to spend millions on some one of advanced age and bad health .The out come is just a delay of reality .I am in agreement with Phil when its time its time .
If this trial your dad is in will stop cancer in its tracks as the doctors hope it will save a huge amount of money for health care. Insurance can stop having to pay for all the many years that cancer sometimes goes on because it will stop it at the beginning stages. It will not be a late stage treatment if the trail works out.
It is easy to say, I will gracefully die, but in reality, until you are in the foxhole, you never know. I personally believe nobody dies gracefully, I believe death is ugly, mean, and full of problems. I can only hope I die quickly, so none of the decisions of elongating live are needed to be made. I believe the business practices of Hospitals is close to the worst. I priced out a tune up yesterday, they wanted 275 for my Chevy Astro, and I figure it out, they wanted 200 in labor. I can so the work myself in 1.5 hours, so I guess I will make 75 dollars per hour. 90 percent of the people on the planet cannot do math, they are incapable of making critical decisons. I just left Kroger, they had a small bag of granola for 6.50, this is mostly cheap oatmeal, it just is stupid to buy it for that price, but the do. I think people buy what is their temptations and never once think, there is not even prices on things in some stores, yet the people buy. The prices in the USA for medical are high because nobody looks at the doctor and say, you are kind of crazy.
I believe a professional person should be payed fairly for their expertise . The problem with hospitals is the making of money is heartless . They can charge any thing because the alternative to no treatment is death . You can choose of course either one to pay or not . This will never be a issue for me ,as I have no money . When I get sick I either get better or I die simple as that . Best to pay attention to ones health . I have not had a car in 15 years ,never will again . I have learned to do with out . Thats not possible for every one I understand .Those costs of owning a car are forever gone from my life . No gas ,insurance ,tires ,tune ups .etc. That money I can use for other things . Point is there are lots of things I dont like ,and I have tried to eliminate all of them .
On the issue of death, Dr M Scott Peck MD, wrote a useful book, not his best seller, 'the road less traveled' but, 'People of the lie'... very interesting about the issue of death, it is indeed terrifying beyond all comprehension for some. but for a majority death is a trip with friends long since passed, covered in many books about near death experiences. A recent film, 'the rite' was a true story of a man apprenticing in exorcism by the Catholic church... blood chilling as the film progresses. There is apparently a dark dark side.
M. Scott Pecks book addressed that extensively. I have acquaintances afraid to die. I am not afraid to die. I am afraid to go broke however and starve or be forced to live out in the cold. Other books by medical doctors include. 'Closer to the light' by Dr. (forgot name). detailed the NDE's of hundreds of children who died and were revived on the operating table... you can find it on Amazon.
Many of us have put our lives on the line, and were most disappointed by failure to perform (in my case) laying on a race track with blood running out my mouth and unable to move and finish the race..and in various other less than entirely mellow activities... in that case through sheer intent i told my pit crew to go get the bike and bend it back into shape and stand me up... so there I was standing next to my bike but unable to move my legs, so I told them to start the bike (500cc triumph) put me on it and put my feet on the pegs and put the bike into second gear, because I couldn't move my foot to operate the shifter. (fortunately one of my friends snuck a spacer out of the throttle cable so that I could not get full throttle, that may have saved my life)
The track officials waved me out to do a lap... and I did, but my mind was out of it, and I noticed everyone in stands stand up..and wondered what was up with that..and noticed that I had hauled ass into the first turn full throttle .. so shut it down in time to make the turn and head for the backfield jump.. and hit that going way too fast. landed on the back wheel, going over backwards, then magically my right foot worked again and I tapped the rear brake and that put the front end down.. into the pit turn, a hair pin... everyone behind the plywood fence scattered, I was still way out of control.
The rest of the story is not so glorious at all, out of 21 riders who began the race only 3 finished after the restart, me not included. several were hauled off to the hospital.. I was still coughing blood, my only concern was that I'd be too screwed up to make the next friday nights race... I think my brain function still has a few missing links... when i type I leave out words... some of us have had that with various fights in our lives... we are not afraid to die, but we are afraid of going out the bottom so to speak or being uncomfortable or in dire straights..
that does bother me. But death so far does not seem to be much of a real concern, largely because in my case at least, I see it as inevitable and might as well look forward to the experience.
I have been with several people a day before they passed, so far, all were calm, and aware, there was no fear. I was with the world famous Jack Gordon sprint car driver just before he passed, and asked him to tell me what his secret was in achieving so many victories around the world..and he told me. And I wished him well. He did not take my advice about cutting out the sausage and egg sandwiches either, Im sure he died with a good taste in his mouth.
One who had a difficult life was hanging on, and tense and not looking at anyone, responded as i asked her to forgive all the nasty bastards she had known in her life.. one by one in silence, she could no longer talk.. she ended quite wonderfully holding her head up for the first time in months and turning to look me in the eyes with tears streaming down her face.
I think death can easily be quite a wonderful thing when it comes as one is spent especially. I think our job might be to insure we actually end up spent, exhausted and crawling to the finish line, hopefully full of bullet holes as we saw in the closing quarter of the film, 'The Last Samurai'.... or for some, maybe just well rested.... but not just rotted from disuse and lack of engagement.
I think for anyone who has sought to help others out of a fatal life circumstance, especially the wounded high fliers in the world detectable by their grace and obstinance ...if it happens to be a young lady in my case...and who has shown corrupt power the teeth of refusal against viscous odds as Karen Silkwood did (a true story movie 'Silkwood' I talked to her father after my own experience and thanked him for Karens priceless gift to integrity ...
In those cases life was worthwhile and one does not fear the finish line.
I am sorry for your problems. Sometimes I think it is more stressful to watch a loved one with health issues than to have it yourself. My girfriends father had prostate cancer that moved to the bone. Pretty advanced by the time that they found it in the bone, and at 87 with minor alzheimers he chose not to have radiation or any of the other treatments. They treated for pain and did what they could to keep everything working as best they could. My GF and he went on a couple of vacations and he tried to spend as much quality time as possible with his family. He spent the last 6 weeks of his life in our living room slowly getting worse until he was bedridden. He died peacefully last Sunday with some of his family there. His legacy is his family. He raised 5 decent kids to adulthood. They are still close with one another and get together frequently. He worked all his life in construction and as a contractor and had many friends when he died. My GF has fought breast cancer for 13 years and it has now moved to the bones, esophogus and stomach. She is in pretty good health at the moment. She may have 6 months left, or she may have 6 years. She is also loved by her family and friends. The point is that we have limited control over what will take us and when. We have a lot of control over what kind of life we live. We don't have to create the next Gates Foundation. We don't have to save the world. We just have to do what we reasonably can to live a good life, and at least not make other peoples lives worse. At best we can make other peoples lives better. Whether we do that by helping others, or by just being there, it really does not matter.