Psychologically 15 years of perpetual travel changed me, I am now an extreme extrovert.
Travel Can Make Extreme Extroverts
I am happy to say, I have almost zero fear of talking with strangers, girls, famous people, or criminals. Regardless of their label, social status, or the letters before or after their name, I am willing to say,
“Hello, how are you, where are you from?”
I am even able to say,
“You are a liar.”
“How much money do you make?”
I am capable of asking questions that are considered socially unacceptable. It seems normal to talk with strangers, I am a world traveler, I am always a stranger.
I can open any door; I can start a conversation with anyone.
Meeting strangers is normal, meeting people I know is rare, after 15 years of perpetual travel, I have become desensitized, I no longer meet strangers, everyone feels the same. Meeting French, Germans, or Chinese seems normal.
Traveling the planet can stop shyness, and allow you to have thousands of friends and lovers. It is possible to say the words,
“I do not care what people think about me.”
And really live the words, because after people talk about you for 1-3 years 24 hours per day, on every corner of the planet, and look at you, stare at you, the ability to care what they think dies. I am desensitized, the emotions of feeling awkward around strangers has dimished, what is left over an extreme extrovert.
“In psychology, desensitization (also called inurement) is defined as the diminished emotional responsiveness to a negative or aversive stimulus after repeated exposure to it. It also occurs when an emotional response is repeatedly evoked in situations in which the action tendency that is associated with the emotion proves I
irrelevant or unnecessary.”
Desensitization on Wiki
Well, that is nice, if I am not longer afraid to meet strangers, the remainder man is I become an extreme extrovert. One still meets people, but when one is not afraid, one is open to talking, discussing, and treating people as old friends.
5 Reasons to Become Extreme Extrovert
Or to have zero shyness.
1. Ask the boss for a raise.
2. Ask the most beautiful girl or man to talk with you.
3. Tell your neighbor to mind their business.
4. To stop people from invading your privacy, and living in constant anger of trying to protect.
5. Make the million dollar deal.
--- To have everyone become a friend. ---
It is illogical to be shy, and many people say they want their privacy, in reality, I believe they are scared of people. If a person has great personal boundaries, nobody can cause you to seek privacy, because you always have your powerful personal space, which nobody enters without permission.
I am an American that travels the world, recently I decided it was wise, and savvy to peacock it, I now self-promoted that I am from the USA.
Today, I am in Natitingou, Benin West Africa, where being American raises my social value 30-50 percent. There is true value in being American, I receive prestige for doing nothing, just a stroke of luck, and I can use this advantageously to open doors.
Never a dull moment for a placekicking American, who is an extreme extrovert…
Contrary Logic About Extroverts
Personally, people who walk around with purple hair, radical clothing, or scream inside restaurants, in my opinions they are not extroverts. They are scared children, screaming for the attention of mommy.
I see an extrovert as a person who does not see any utilitarian value to many social constraintes, and see shyness of little value. And, maybe the demand for too much privacy as fear, their own incapacity to stop the lunatics at the door in mature way, so they close all door, more or less ego defense mechanism going of control. And, of course, there are people who just do not like people.
Hi Andy, you may be right. I'm a little shy, but not when someone's friendly with me. It probably is just fear that people won't like me. OK, so I guess I need to travel more so that I get over it! I'm thinking of going back to visit India again -- I really would like to visit this spring, but only see airfares upwards of $1000 (US) including tax, leaving from WAS or JFK -- I told the online travel person in India "anywhere on the east coast" and she couldn't quote me a lower price. Do you have some kind of secret or trick to get there without paying so much money? I'm not exactly rolling in dough, but I do love to travel too ... not too fond of some 11+ hour bus rides I've taken, but it doesn't sour me on traveling. For other not-so-rich travelers, if you have hints for saving money on actually getting overseas, please let us know! Thanks! SK