I have given up on e-mails, they are too dysfunctional, this truly is the Skype.com generation we are entering.
I am Giving Up on E-mails!
After over 18 years of doing business on the Internet, I am moving back to the telephone. When a person wants to start a relationship with me, they will need to call me, I am going to end my dysfunctional relationship with my 100's of web sites.
E-mail is a way to avoid doing business. 90 percent of the people on e-mail want to get something for nothing, with no commitments, and are anonymous.
Telephone calls are actually doing business, a person cannot hide.
E-mail enables people to complain. I want them to be functional, an email is to give me information, data, so I do not need to take notes.
This is a fast way of resolving a problem, or explaining something, a two way dialog can reach a solution 100 times faster than e-mails.
You ask a question, I answer, or I ask, and you answer.
I have a need for speed!
This section of HoboTraveler.com is about Organizational skills, there is a table of contents link up above, and this is one reason, I am going back to the telephone.
My List of My Goals - Andy Graham
1. Enjoy the day.
2. Do more things in a day that are enjoyable, then things that are not.
3. Eliminate negative things in my day.
4. Make enjoyable friends.
5. Do enjoyable activities.
6. Make enough money that allows me do the above 5 things.
7. Build Rapport with both friends, and rather unethical people in an ethical way, where I benefit by making money, and my clients make money.
8. Eliminate non-functional things, whereby what is remaining is effective.
Organized people want to come together, disorganized people separate. Every conversation is a way to come together, the first sign a person is refusing to come together, then that is the time to erase them.
People are either on the team, of off the team, and few are in the qualifying process that leads to joining the team.
Either welcome or goodbye!
The telephone also strips away a few layers of false bravado that the emails afford. There is a higher level of intimacy with the telephone so you are more polite while your courting a pleasant, beneficial and fulfilling relationship.
Another benefit of the telephone is the inflections in each others speech and you tend not to misinterpret each others meanings and intentions which can happen all the time with emails.
Pass me the phone and it can be an example of minimalism at its best.
Pauses of silences are common during the call.............and although a face is not interacted with in email either, somehow a phone call has always felt like talking into a vaccum rather than to a real person. Maybe the sight of text while responding feels more like a conversation to me than a disembodied voice? It could stem back to a great nervousness and shyness around using the phone, that my childhood was afflicted by.
Using text seems to provide a relaxed space of breathing room in which matters can be given deeper thought and consideration before answering / submitting, than with the immediacy which can be demanded from phone calls due to the time = money aspect of phone calls. If people are more authentic on the phone, I'm not fully convinced that will always be the case as some have a very fine tuned strong public 'front' for their physical and phone interactions which isn't the real them and their true feelings.
For practical matters though, yes phone calls may be far quicker for organization.
Bravo! I live in Central America and when I travel I take my Magic Jack with me. Since I am becoming involved with an small organization offering cultural and eco tours in El Salvador, I am going to post my Magic Jack number and as well ask e mailers in USA or Canada what is best time to call them on my dime? If and when you arrive locally and require a cellphone I will assist you in purchasing one for about $15 which includes 5 worth of saldo, perepaid phone and now a Claro, Tigo or Digicel cell bought in El Salvador works in Guatemala, Honduras and Nicaragua as well, the pay phones are gone! Relics, soon getting an I phone as well, now I only 'e mail' close friends, people I have already met f2f, I stopped answering anonymous e mailers wishing insider information or real estate 'con' tips and tricks "When is the best time to call you?" Rarely an answer, I had to call all over the USA yesterday, as well people call you on magic jack the message goes on my e mail account and I am able to return the call..I learned in the late 1990s that the Internet is nothing but an extension of the telephone, I also had a Jewish mother and am skilled in art of conversation, do not tolerate long 'pregnant pauses" Talk when you are talking and don't stop or I will assume you have hung up or passed out and hang up myself. I was a 1980s to early 1990s Expat in Guatemala, we would gather and converse and when a newcomer came around (Many US Citizens are brought up to 'sell'), a 'floating gringo' we waould be able to judge him or her by shaking their hand and looking into their eyes, read the body language, we all have warts none of us are perfect, but a con artist to me is only a step above a pedophile!!!!!! Hence 'The Good, The Bad and the Ugly" And I do advise those who are interested in Central or south america to travel to country or region of choice and make connections, both local and expat, people who have no desire to sell you land or rent you condos!!!!!!!!!!