Having good manners when meeting other travelers?
I am bewildered and sometime worried about people as I meet the world in my
travels. I dream of a world where people treat each other with respect, and I am
continually finding the opposite. I am starting this tip in Varnasi, India as a
man just said,
"Your present is and imbecile."
I tried to sway or chide a him into saying or tempering down the use of the word
imbecile. He then ask another traveler and he agreed, like if two people agreed
that they could say something or they agreed then this was good manners.
I suppose I could tell you the countries involved, but this is not important,
I find that having poor social grace is universal.
There is a fashionable abuse that is alive in the world by travelers where
they think that rebellion is good just for the sake of disagreeing. Being
different and unique is wonderful, but forcing your views on the anyone is bad
RULE OF THUMB TO KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE BAD MANNERS:
If a person takes offense in any way to your comment, then you are have
Nobody should be made to feel uncomfortable in a civilized world.
Argumentative or provocative statements are asking for a fight, and you will
surely have your request answered.
- Talk about a persons native country in negative terms, or express comments
or opinions you believe. You do not know this new acquaintance and it is unfair
to anyone to believe they agree.
- Do not say things like,
"You cannot help." or
"It is not your fault." or any slight of hand comment to open up your desire to
- Do not guess their country, at least not to them, I was laughing today as 2
separate travelers mistaken or asked a Canadian man,
"Are you from the USA?" Now this is a social mistake, not a big one, but you
will find this creates animosity.
- Do not guess how they live, or what the think or how they live. Allow the
person to be as they are and not as you imagine.
- Do not speak in your native language if it is possible to choose a common
language. It is bad manners to speak with a friend in a way that excludes others
from understanding your conversation. There is almost always a dominate language
that is easiest for all.
- Do not compare in any way that would lead one to believe or indicate that
one culture is superior to another.
- Do not tease or make jokes at any ones expense. You do not know these people
and this is for good friends. No one should or excuse your humor. There is no
reason why another culture should understand.
- Introduce yourself, you came to meet the world or are people not important?
If they are not important then this is not necessary, but if you believe that
people should live in peace, and happiness make the world comfortable.
- Shake their hand, or greet them as is your custom, or their custom. Learn
the greeting as needed. These are not just greetings, they are terms of respect.
- Think of all the things you know good about the other persons country and
- Translate or help the ones that do not understand the language if possible.