We watched the movie, Eat, Pray, Love, a great film. We loved it, but a couple of years later, we still do not EAT, PRAY, or Love. Why not, what is wrong?
One of my best girl pickup lines is:
“Everyone needs a playground ... and someone to play with.”
And DAMNIT, don't get angry at me because I want love! I’ve got to open the conversation somehow, and honesty works. We all need an opener, a way to open doors.
The girls always fall for that quote, or more correctly, when they look in my eyes, they suddenly stop and know me, Andy, for one second. He is not just talking, they think, he means it, he really wants to play. And if we can push on through and find an intimate moment, we talk, and the girl is mine.
Bah in Ivory Coast
I was going to get married a year ago in Ivory Coast to Bah. She is, and always will be, a love of my life. One year later, though, no marriage, no children, no happy life with Bah, and it still comes down to why. I ask myself why, why, why, what the hell went wrong?
All I wanted out of life was to play … to eat, pray, and love with the girl.
I told her: “I will give you anything, any world you want, if you just relax and play with me, have fun.”
Why, Why, Why??? Why do we lose love?
We each need to choose a playground; then, we invite people to come play. We all need someone to share time with, to eat, pray, and love with. But how do we do this, when in the end, we all just jump up and down on our playground and turn it into a shopping mall because we want money. We can all go play, but one (or both) of the people want to make money.
Bah made tons of plans about what she needed from life. I need to play, have fun. I said, I have what I need, when is it time to play? She had her family, sister, mother, father and everyone tell me what I needed to give, but nobody was allowing me to enjoy life, as if business was more important than eating, praying and loving life.
Today, I Blocked a Girl on Skype and Unfriended Her on Facebook.
There is very clever girl I met here in Sosua. She is cute, smart and too clever for her own good. We connected on Facebook, we connected on Skype, and we connected when she came to visit.
She enjoyed me pursuing her and put me on Facebook and Skype. She chatted at me, to make sure I was here waiting. Today, I stopped waiting and blocked her on Skype and unfriended her on Facebook, just stopped with no goodbyes, no adios.
Solution - How to Eat, Love and Pray?
We each need to make requests:
– Please, let us go eat together.
– Please, let us go love together.
– Please, let us go pray together.
When people say, "I am too busy," believe them.
Burn your bridges, sell your dream to the neighbors, and move on down the road.
Amazing thing about life: There are millions of great playgrounds; however, when we arrive there, everyone is at work, too busy trying to earn enough money to go the playground. Yet the playgrounds of life are free; the only cost is time, but somehow we are convinced that we need to have money to give love and to receive love.
Well, when you hear an excuse, when you offer to your to friend, “let’s go eat, pray or love,” then listen quietly, eat their excuses, pray to never see them again, and go find person that has time for love.
Andy Graham ... leading a life less normal, a life worth living.
WOW! Interesting. Thgat movie is one I did not waste money on. I saw the trailers and said it was not a bad movie but stupid.
I have been through 2 marriages and 3 or other relationships that ended because I never cared about just earning money. I was not interested in becoming super wealthy as I knew it takes way to much energy, time and a5s kissing to get ahead when you are not wealthy to begin with.
I did work as typical American but at a job I enjoyed waking up and going to every day.
It was never enough for my former exes they all wanted the 3/4 kids, 2/3 cars, boats, clothes, big house, etc, etc. I did not.
I know many people look at having all those things as a picture of seurity and for them, love. Now look at how many have lost everything during the resession, for them it is a depression.
Now I can really LOL when I see my last ex working, not real certain about her financial status as she looks towards retirement while I am quite comfortable and come and go as I please enjoying my travel and my small but more than enough bank account.
you want to play and wonder why young girls do not agree....They want security and marriage and children. This is not difficult to understand.
By the way, I thought you are 57 years old by now, not 47 as you write. Was it a mistake or on purpose???
I also feel forever young, but am over 70 by now. The Phillipines where we wanted to emigrate, turned out to be an illusion, because I do not want to live in a hotel resort where the beaches are beautiful, but you better stay inside the area and do not mix with the poor people outside the resort. This is not my way of life. I like to be with the local people as we did in Uruguay, but life became more and more dangerous because of the robbery and drug problem. So we sold everything and moved back to Tenerife where I still have an apartment.
If you want to play only, you have to pay for the service.....That is my opinion and experience throughout the whole world. I travelled in more than 90 countries and have known many, many different people. They all seem to function on the same method....Women do not play, unless they are professionals.
Asirik, I somewhat agree but there are people in this world that do know how to play and work for a living.
Orientals have an over abundance of holidays, compared to the western world, and have a high percentage of poor people but still survive and enjoy life.
I love Bavarians, now is Oktober Fest time and it's somewhat amazing to see that business continues but so does party time. New Orleans has been doing the same for years.
My career was based on play and I enjoyed going to work as do many other people with jobs they love.
Granted the percentage is small but they are out there enjoying life.
Not every woman wants a family, big homes and absolute security.
I know this 1st hand, I won't go into details but take a look at todays modern women, many are now much more independent than they were prior to the 60's when things really started to change.
I am not a lover of sappy girl movies, but I did like that movie. However, I could not get into the book. I do understand you issue. I find that men act as if they crave my attention and once I stop all I am doing to give them that attention, they then become to busy for me. But they also do not want me to stop giving that attention just because they are too busy for me. Color me confused. I would love to find a partner that wants to travel endlessly. Everyone I meet thinks I am crazy. I just explain that I have not perfected my skills, yet. Never lose hope.