Philippines Travel Stories, Page 4

Skype.com Calling Rules Tip

Skype.com Calling Rules Tip
When using Skype.com overseas, we must agree, if the call breaks, I will call you back, do you understand? Skype.com allows me to call any land line or cell phone in the USA for 2 cents per minute, and if the person has a Skype.com account, we can talk free.



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Philippines
Southeast Asia
Saturday, October 3, 2009

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Skype.com is a tricky….

Five Easy Skype.com Rules

1. If they call breaks, we agree who should try to call me back so we both do not connect to voice mails. This is truly an annoying problem, to try repeatedly means we will never connect.

2. When you call me, because I am outside the USA, I will call you back so I can pay 2 cents per minutes.

3. If we are friends, I may not pick it up if it forwards to the cell, you should try again.

4. Please try 3-5 times, do not give up after one attempt, calling over the Internet is not perfect.

5. Let the Phone ring at least 10-15 times, allowing the system to forward to my cell.

I have a Skype.com number that forwards to my cell phone to my current country. I can give this number to people, they then call a USA telephone number, this number than forwards to me.

Skype.com like this, the person clicks on my Icon and make a free call and it can turn into a call that cost between about 10 cents and 1.50 Dollars per minute. I do not mind answering and paying the high fee, I do wish everyone understood.

It cost me 2 cents to call the USA.

When you call my USA number, it cost as much as 1.50 per minute.

Here is a kicker; my Thailand girlfriend can call the USA for 2 cents per minute. She calls my USA Skype.com number, then Skype.com forwards to me.

The call is routed, Thailand - USA - Philippines or (Current Country.)

She pays 2 cents per minute using a calling card.

I pay approximately 22 cents per minute to receive the call.

Skype.com Calling Rates:
http://www.skype.com/prices/callrates/

Note, I also have a Yahoo account that allows me to call landlines.

Are there more Skype.com rules we need to know?

Skype.com Calling Rules Tip


Cultural Fatigue

Cultural Fatigue
Definition of Cultural Fatigue:
“Cultural Fatigue is the physical and emotional exhaustion that almost invariably results from the infinite series of minute adjustments required for long-term survival in an alien culture. Living and working overseas generally requires that one must suspend his automatic evaluations and judgments, that he must supply new interpretations to seemingly familiar behavior and that he must demand of himself constant alterations in the style and content of his activity. Whether this process is conscious or unconscious, successful, or unsuccessful, it consumes and enormous amount of energy leaving the individual decidedly fatigued…”
- Cultural Confrontation in the Philippines
Book by David L. Szanton

Maybe this a helpful reference:
“Cultural Confrontation in the Philippines. In Textor ed, Cultural Frontiers of the Peace Corps. MIT Press, 1965.“

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Philippines
Southeast Asia
Friday, October 2, 2009

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I would personally thank David L. Szanton for writing this comment some 40 years ago, it is as poignant accurate today as it was than.

Cultural Fatigue
I personally know I become culturally fatigued, however fatigue is often too mild of word, I can be exhausted, and consumed by frustration anger. I have developed many coping mechanisms that allows me to travel perpetually travel and continually change cultures. I ride an emotional roller coaster and must be continually in touch with my emotions or lose the plot.

I will be exploring this concept in small doses, the denial, anger, shame, and rage that can be elicited by this discussion of cultural fatigue is incredible.

Are you losing the plot?

Cultural Fatigue

http://globetrotter.berkeley.edu/faculty/Szanton.html

Cultural Fatigue


Is Philippines in Danger of Military Coup

Is Philippines in Danger of Military Coup
A world in trouble by Maximiliano Herrera is an Internet page whereby this young man list probabilities of "trouble within the immediate future, for example 2-3 years."

Maximiliano Herrera says yes, it is a HIGH possibility for the Philippines to have a Coup in the next couple of years.



Who is Maximiliano Herrera and what give him the right to say this?

Read his page showing Trouble in Countries

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Thursday, October 1, 2009

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Who is Maximiliano Herrera?

“I am Maximiliano Herrera from Costa Rica and I currently live in Bangkok, Thailand. I was born on September 8th, 1972. I have been traveling all my life. I have studied about foreigner politics, human rights and climatology. I like nature, the sea, the sun, i listen music of the 80s. I have traveled around about 100 countries. I speak spanish (latinamerican and iberic) 100%, italian 99%, portuguese 70%, english 65%, Thai (50%) and some Laotian. I am 1.75 , 70 Kg of weight, light-brown hair, blue eyes.
- From page: About Maximiliano Herrera

I found this list intriguing and generally accurate in my estimation, I am not am not a person who worries about the danger in countries so the list was boring to study.

What do you think? I have been wondering for years how a Diplomat that has only been to a few countries is qualified to compare countries. There is a lot of difference between what the CNN, BBC induced or created “News” says and Reality, you cannot read or study your way to understanding a country, in the end, I feel feet on the ground is needed.

Is Philippines in Danger of Military Coup


Home Away from Home 16 Minutes

Home Away from Home 16 Minutes
I received and email from the Pretty House Hostel in Lima, Peru. I was excited my friends wrote me, the time zones were aligned, so I got on Skype.com and called them, we had a great conversation, Como Estas? Que Haces, etc, and how is your family, how is my family we talked for 16 minutes when I clicked to end call on Skype.com.



Reception Area of the Pretty House Hostel in Lima Peru

Pretty House Hostel Peru

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Thursday, October 1, 2009

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This conversation is 16 minutes longer than any conversation with the owner of my present Hotel here in Manila; I do not even know his name.
(Australian Owner)

This is 16 minutes more friendship than the Hotel Owners in Baguio.
(American-Philippine Owner)

This is 16 minutes more friendship than the Hotel Owner in Baguio.
(Australian Owner)

I received an email from Bruno yesterday from Uganda.



Bruno

I am laughing now, however when I met my friend Bruno, I was beat up, I was emotionally distraught, I called it Travel Fatigue which was close, I have now learned a better term, it is called Cultural Fatigue as explained by David L. Szanton.

I would like people to take a pause, a timeout, and try to realize nobody should be required to like another culture. Yes, I use the word stupid more in underdeveloped countries than I do in highly developed countries like Japan. The more developed a country is the more systematic and logical the country is, that is the bottom line or one is smarter and the other is more stupid.

However, try to find some friends, try to find friends that meet you half way, they will go out of their way to become your friend. Weigh this, if a person never reaches out to you, maybe this is not the friend you want or need.

I have slowly found a pattern, I enter countries, I collect emails, and I then leave the country. The more emails I receive from that country, maybe the more compatible. I do not expect you to love me, and I do not try to be loved by you, I try to be me, so a like kind person can find me and become my friend, I am not lacking in friends, except maybe in the Philippines.

I know many Men love the Philippines and they are going to protect it all cost, this is where they feel loved.

(Note, I did not add the zinger on the end for kicks on how...)

Home Away from Home 16 Minutes


Too Many Photos of Philippines Children

Too Many Photos of Philippines Children
I suppose it is time to leave Manila, I am taking too many pictures of Filipino children playing.

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Wednesday, September 30, 2009

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My mother wrote me and said,
“This picture of the small child up close is the best picture of a child you have ever taken I think. You took a picture of the African children in the water helping their mommies wash clothes and I have always kept that one.”
- Mom

Mom was referring to the Philippines photo on this page:
Philippines Street Children



This is the Africa Photo she is referring to when my Mother said
“African children in the water helping their mommies wash clothes.”

This photos was taken in a very special place, surrounded by love, the children were too cute, too loving and too happy. I was in Togo West Africa up on the mountains near the border of Ghana, all I can remember if good.

Here is the post I made:
Togo West Africa

Here is a link to an absolutely beautiful little African girl standing in the river that I feel is special. However is special to me because maybe in my minds eye the story is wrapped in the beautiful West Africa cultural experience of girls wearing beads around their waist.
Beads around Waist of Small Girl in Togo Africa

PHOTOS TAKEN IN SEQUENCE



First



Second



Third



Fourth



Fifth



Sixth



Seventh

Even for me enough is enough, I have 21 more days to spend in the Philippines before my plane leaves. I need a Hotel in a wonderful place for about 600-1200 Pesos, free unlimited high-speed internet in my room.

Suggestion are needed, I do not want to take these types of photos.

September 30, 2009

Too Many Photos of Philippines Children


Europe is Violent Africa is Not

Europe is Violent Africa is Not
61,000,000 people died in WW II

I have well intended friends send me information about Africa. Comparing countries is difficult, however if I asked myself, which country is better off, Rwanda or the Philippines. I guess I would have to say Rwanda.

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Tuesday, September 29, 2009

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I also know, no amount of writing can overcome the opinion you already have, so no point in explaining. The truth is this; it is acceptable to say bad things about Black People, while nobody wants to accept Germany is the champion at genocide. Hmm, maybe we can call this whitewashing of cultural shames.

I continually try to understand why it is so easy to get readers angry when I write about the Philippines. I had one person in Baguio get incredibly angry because I said the Philippine is primitive. They carry water, they cook with wood, they piss in the streets, and they live in horrible shanty conditions. What is wonderful here, I can go into my retreat, my Ugly American hotel that is ultra modern and walk two blocks in any direction and find shanty houses.

I know I am 10 time more violent than a Filipino person, I am from a European Bloodline, what I am capable of make this place wimps. Whitewashing of the truth is denial.

African countries are funny, there is almost no government, there is almost no need for police, rules, or policy. The place is so safe they have never evolved to a level of extreme amount of rules. There is no rule of law, because there is no need, generally it is self governing.

Do rich people take advantage of poor people? Of course, however because it is Black doing it, we can paint the picture horribly black, while when it is white people, we whitewash our cultural shame.

Whites are civilized, Blacks are heathens, but gee whiz, we only killed 61 Million people.



I opened the door at the Mini Stop near Robinsons Mall, I know my mother is always watching and wants me to be good boy and have manners. Two girls walked through, then this boy walked through. I said,
“You're welcome.”
As is my custom, one of these days they will say thank you.

I was standing in line waiting to pay, this boy cut line in front of me, I grab his shoulder and pulled him back behind me, he gave me an indignant looks, no smile, this is unusual. I turned around, looked right at him and said,
“Assss hole.”

I then in premeditated calm walked back and took this photo of him, how is more violent, me or him? I sure hope my mother does not fully understand the term Amor Propio, I told my friend Bjorn, I cannot live in the Philippines, somebody would kill me.

Europe is Violent Africa is Not


Untie Yourself

Untie Yourself
My life is vibrant, I am alive, my brain operates at full capacity, I am aware of who I am, I love being me, I can feel the vibration of life.

“Deleted comments are embarrassing.”
Comment from Wade of VagabondJourney.com in a telephone call.

I have been asking myself why ever since we talked on the phone? I am supposed to become embarrassed…?

I called up Wade in the USA, the writer of VagabondJourney.com who is presently in the USA working to save up enough money to take off traveling again. He wrote a spectacular story explaining about my new feature on this travel journal whereby readers can read deleted comments. If you do not realize, I moderate all comments, I delete about 1 in 10, often more, sometime seldom, and it changes by country and audience.

Now you can read deleted comments, they are rude, mean, meant to provoke me and lead me astray and off topic. Note, sometimes it works, I had to delete my own comments today, they were inciting a riot.

Funny, raucous and annoying stuff, full of profanity, name calling and generally people trying to me to lower my self-esteem. I must keep in a password protected area, the comments are not for prime time, be warned, the world is not in love with me.

Sign up and Sign In

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Tuesday, September 29, 2009

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I will sometime say
“Plan your escape.”

I am sure one of you feels trapped in a life you did not choose, it just happened, the only solution is to escape, there is no diplomatic way to leave.

When I was age 21-23, I would go to a Bar called the Bluebird in Bloomington, Indiana, home of Indiana University a place where I spent six years of my life supporting the beer industry. There was a band called
“Duke Tomato and the All Star Frogs.” I think he now calls the group, Duke Tomato and the Power Trio, nonetheless, he sang a song that would make the mother of any college student cringe called
“Tie You Up.”
There was a lyric, that went something like,
“You bring the dope, I’ll bring the rope.”

Now, I was warned a couple of weeks ago,
“Do not play with people fantasies.”

I have been wondering for years, why would a person want to be tied up. There would be a whole bar full of people scream the lyrics.
“I’m going to tie you up.”
“I’m going to tie you up.”
“I’m going to tie you up.”
I was taking the morning shower; this comment by Wade has set up housekeeping in my brain and has now decided to play ping-pong.
“Deleted comments are embarrassing.”
Comment from Wade of VagabondJourney.com in a telephone call.

The deleted comments are fun, angry people, frustrated people who are in want to control me. It is amazing how many people want me to stop thinking, talking and writing.

Money - I like Green
I put the deleted comments up for one reason, I like money, I can make money, and I know my normal writing is boring in compared to these mean spirited deleted or stupid comments. They truly are like gossip, one comment can spin, another person adds spin and the next thing you know, there is a big argument.

What does a song about tying people up and embarrassing comments have in common? They are both talking about losing control and allowing another person to be in control.

The buzzword a few years ago was to “think out of the box.” I have been saying for years now, “get out of the box.” Truly know you are tied up in the office, at work, the machine has you under their control. When the work machine does not have you under control, you tie yourself up trying to live up to a delusional belief of who you are.

Travel Writers are amazing, 99 percent lies and 1 percent honestly, they try to hide the real world from the readers.

I have zero desire to tie somebody up, I have zero desire to be tied up, but I am guessing, some of you want would like to be out of control, to go crazy, to be somebody else.

I was searching for one of my favorite songs by the Duke, called “Choice Tattoo.” I never found it, there was lyric that better describes me, “I am looking for a girl with a choice tattoo.”

However, what happens if you allowed somebody to tie you up? The bottom line, you would be out of control.

I am not embarrassed by the deleted comments. I stopped a long time ago pretending I was perfect. What makes people angry is that I refused to be tied up, I am uncontrollable.

Where is that girl with the Choice Tattoo?

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The bargain is this, if you really knew me, if you really knew what I was thinking about you would not like me. Everyone says they do not care, but the truth is, they spend the whole time hiding, they do not want to be embarrassed.

I sometime meet some truly hurt people, I will say,
“You can be loved by me, and I can be loved by you.”
Please tell this to me,
They often cannot, it is too painful.

Hey stupid, get out of the box, it is your turn to tie people up.

Untie Yourself


Philippine Girl Eye Language

Philippine Girl Eye Language
Learn how to talk with body language, maybe flirt or interpret Philippines girls, or generally stay confused as I do. I recorded a video yesterday of a Filipina girl raising her one eyebrow, I am quite happy to have captured this video.



The faces of young Filipino people are maybe the reason why I come to the Philippines. Young Filipino people smile in almost all situations, happy, sad, flirting, anger, the standard response is to smile. It is very comforting experience until my mind adjusts and I remember how to interpret the Philippines, and then is the onset of Cultural Fatigue.

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Malate Ermita Mabini Philippines
Southeast Asia
Tuesday, September 29, 2009

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I encounter a two-part sequence of events here in the Philippines. There are many girls standing around more or less hawking customers to enter the stores, shops or restaurants.

First Both Eyes Blink at Me
Maybe 1 in 20 of he girls less than 30 years of age starts to blink both eyes at me. In Thailand, they call this PING, or maybe PING PING, both cultures call is sweet eyes, the girls will give me sweet eyes.

This is the high sign, I have permission to enter into a conversation, and of course, because they are selling products, we both have an excuse to open a conversation. As best I understand, nice girls in the Philippines need an introduction from an older adult to have the official high sign, if you like the girl probably best to find an adult in their life that can grant permission. I believe it is needed at any age level, they can be 30 years old and still need social permission.

Second - The ONE Eyebrows Raise
I am not sure how to evaluate this, I think often they are skeptical, and often they are being secretive. One girl can be making many eye gestures while all the others are just looking. The conversation can be about the product they are selling while one specific girl may be blinking her eyes, look around, glancing, and in a way to an observant person never ending eye conversations.

I have learned to mimic the eyebrow raising, and blinking of the eyes, I am learning to speak Filipino Eye Language. Nothing endears you better than to mimic a person. It is like giving a high five to people in the USA, we both agree to agree.

I truly love to learn how they communicate with me, however because of Hiya or shame, the small probing question can make them go into their emotion cave and the conversation goes into blank. This is a heaven on earth for self-absorbed person that doe not care in the least for the Filipino person, if you have no questions, there is no conflict.

The Filipino people are the epitome of the book,
"How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie"
The culture naturally endears you and makes you feel great, sort of like a Politicians before you understand the underlying agenda.

Other Interpretations

FIRST
“Body language: The raising of eyebrows or jerking the head upwards both are affirmative. A jerk of the head downwards means “no”. If they say “yes” while putting their head downward, you can be reasonably sure that they really feel negatively about the matter.”
Telegraph.co.uk Cultural Profiles

SECOND
“Filipinos signify ‘Yes’ by raising the eyebrows or lifting the head upwards slightly. The hand movements which mean ‘Go away’ to us signify ‘Come here’ in the Philippines.

The thumb and middle finger are not used to indicate numbers. Instead of pointing with your finger, indicate discreetly by pointing pursed lips in the direction you want.

One hisses to gain attention, for example, when calling a waiter in a restaurant. When you want to pay the bill, draw a rectangle in the air with your index finger and thumb.”

If Filipinos don’t understand a question, they open their mouths.
Onlyinthephilippines.com

ANDY
In my opinion, the facial expressions evolve with age and slowly they settle into the more Chinese stone face look in older age, often with sagging jowls. I believe as a person matures, the social pressure relaxes and they are not expected to be happy or be excited. They have arrived, they are adult, the youth are required to give respect, they are now the receivers.

Please be warned, do not assume you understand a Philippines person or they understand you, not every person that smiles likes you it is the standard expression, not a positive response.

Philippine Girl Eye Language