I am breaking down the defenses of the Maid in the home here in Banawa, she is staring to trust me or talk to me.
Rosary and Crackers
I was eating this unique cracker or flat sugary dough thing as I was looking for a place in the sun to take a photo of the Rosary.
I am not Catholic and do not assume I ever understand religions, you could try to figure out all the flavors of religions for your whole life and all you would know is there is a lot.
From - Encarta Encyclopedia:
- Rosary, a string of beads or a knotted cord used to count prayers. The term is also applied to the prayers themselves. Rosaries are used in many religions: Buddhism, Hinduism, Islam, and Christianity. Most often associated with Roman Catholics, the rosary is also used by the Orthodox, for whom it is almost exclusively a monastic devotion, and by some Anglicans.
In Roman Catholic practice, the rosary is a string of beads made in the form of a circle, with a pendant crucifix. The standard rosary consists of five sets of beads called decades, each composed of one large and ten smaller beads. On the large beads, the Lord's Prayer, or Our Father, is said; on the smaller beads, the Hail Mary, or Ave Maria. In between the decades the �Glory be,� a doxology, is recited. As the prayers are said, the person reciting the rosary may meditate on a series of New Testament events, called the �mysteries� of the rosary, from the lives of Christ and his mother, Mary. The use of these meditations is optional. Traditionally, the rosary was ascribed to the Spanish theologian St. Dominic early in the 13th century, but no proof exists that he originated it. -
I was asking or explaining how the Islamic people will sit around counting beads and saying prayers, she seemed unaware of any type of prayer significance.
She had a bundle of maybe 20 of these Rosary beads.
We had this big heart to heart conversation, she is a 20 year old virgin, working for 1.25 dollars per day, She said her father was bad, left here and sister, she is also sending money home. Want to me a ---- go figure this, she wants to meet a man between the ages of 50 and 80.
This is a 20 year old girl, shy, timid, not a good cook, however nice, wants to go to church, lives inside this compound, has no life, but wants to marry a foreigner.
Bad girls are like water in tourist areas, I can meet and discuss life with a bad girl easily in the Philippines, however to slow one of the local girls down, stop them from texting messages on their cell phones, have the actually explain what they are thinking is a problem. In addition, personally I am not going to be alone or allow myself from a legal point of view to be exposed or around younger nice girls in a somewhat on the ever-present corrupt side.
I have been to the Philippines now 4 time, I have and keep hearing that the Philippines men are bad men, they drink to much, desert their wives, do not behave.
The made says,
- I want a serious man over 50 -
This girl is afraid of men, however she wants a man, and she obviously will sacrifice all or any personal desires to marry a secure and safe man. I said, serious, what does serous mean, she finally or we agreed she wanted an honest man.
We had this 30-minute conversation, I explained to her that I do not think many foreigners in the Philippines would make good husbands; they are not here for what she wants.
She gives me this Rosary after the conversation; I accept and am happy, I am making a friend. She is simpler person, from the provinces, she is probably from a village where the big thing to do at night is to sit on the ground at night and watch people walk by.
I feel I should say a prayer to protect this girl from men that will prey on her innocence, and even worst, in her hero worship mentality of foreigners, she will in a very misguided way believe that Americans or Europeans are special.
Girls like this are like throwing slaves to the lions, easy to capture, easy to kill and eat. What is nice in this world is she believes in marriage and love, she still wants love and still wants to be loved and have a family.
She believes the Philippine men are bad; I am becoming intrigued by the number of girls that tell me that Philippine men are bad. It is becoming too much, hard to encompass a country that is having trouble with all their men
I suppose these little short men do go into the Catholic I can-lie-go-to-confession-mode too much syndrome. The taxi driver asked me, are you here for mischief, if I say yes he his happy.
I said, do you feel bad that the foreigners are taking all your best women? He just does not know the plot of the story and does not get it.