Was sitting inside my room, typing on the computer. Got up walked to the toilet. A cup of coffee and the day starts. The owner says,
“You go to Flavias?” Or translated to mean… Why are you or are you going to move to Flavias?
Flavias is the name of a Hut Complex directly between my present room and the Beach. Flavias also has palm leave constructed huts also.
I start to say something about … “How did you know?” But stopped myself. This is not important, but somehow she knew that I looked at the concrete rooms of Flavias and was thinking about moving. There is a little embarrassment or shame on my part. I have not normally moved just for the reason of the toilet. But I am moving out of my extremely safe, and extremely large and spacious room, with a great price for a room that I can walk to without going in the sand.
The difference is that I can walk to the outside toilet without walking in the sand. Small, but significant in the dark of night.
She came to my door again… “Ann Dee, Ann Dee” as they say my name. Hard on the Dee.
She thanked me for staying and knows I am moving out. She is very nice woman and wants to learn what is wrong or why I am moving. I told her again about the bathroom. There are about 3 more reasons.
1. Closer to beach.
2. More people in common area for conversation.
3. Even more safe because of more people around.
They rob huts here in the night by breaking into the grass huts. In the concrete ones they come in through the roof. Only the dogs, and other people keep people from breaking in the roof. An isolate concrete building with the tile roofs are very susceptible to robbery.
She is happy because I said to her,
“I will live here for 10 days, and pay 100 Rupees per day, After that I will pay 125 and decide then if I will stay for 10 more days.”
The other guy that was here in the other side said he would stay for 3 months and would pay 80 Rupees per day. I am not sure how long he stayed, but she gave him the discount and he did not stay the time. I advise that only payment in advance is good with travelers. They do not lie, but they will renege on any deal. Western people are not trustworthy with a handshake. They will only hold to a deal if there is a legal or contractual need. But a contract in another country is worthless. So in the end a Hotel owner needs to collect in advance.
For me… My handshake and my word is law. I wish I could say this was 100 percent. It gets closer and closer to 100 percent as I get older. There are times when it is literally impossible to keep your word or handshake, so the percentage is more between 90 to 100 and not 100 percent. Nobody is perfect. If they say to you 100 percent then they are a liar.
I do a test sometimes with people. If someone would say that they are always something. I could say to them… you are always or 100 percent this way. Never a problem and never less, and always hold true. If they would hold that they never let down on what they say. Then I know they are a liar and not to be trusted. Nobody is perfect.
NOTE: All this negotiation and clarification with the owner of my room was done while standing wrapped in my beach towel after returning from the toilet. Life is not very formal and sometime not close to private.
I had a pompous English person try to correct my in that ever present I understand better then you mode of the English to instruct that he was not British, but he was English.
Great Britain encompasses England, Scotland, and Wales, and I believe also Ireland. But there is also the word United Kingdom. All under the rule in round about ways to the Queen. But there is also an entanglement of ownership in values and control with the “Common Wealth.”
I instructed him,’
“British people are touchy and can become quite annoyed if I accidentally displace their specific country. If I was to call you Scottish by accident. So the wise and safe as a person from the USA is to use the encompassing and correct term British when dealing with people that are from Great Britain.”
He knows he does not like to be called Scottish and that British is correct He was being completely pompous. To me this is an attitude of you be peasant, I be noble class. A pervasive theme in 70 percent of the English toward non-English people. They had a long time to learn to be that inherently owned by the Queen. I then said,
“I could call you a POME”
He totally did not understand the perspective of the Ozzies of calling the English Pomes. A girl piped up and said. It is not that he Ozzies were ex prisoners and they should be called POME. Prisoners of her Majesties Empire, but that the people that are prisoners are the people that still live inside the mentality of the British Empire and have never escaped.
“THE GOA THING”
Alex Garland in the book “The Beach” probably said this about Goa because so many people from Britain come to Goa. Goa appears to be the first travel trip for many of the young people. While maybe Europe is the first and normally the last travel trip for Americans.
I was talking last night with Gabe. He is a 65 year old hippie. I think that is his age, but I will have to check again. This guy is a walking encyclopedia of hippie or old time stories about, travel, drugs, and of India.
He was saying how 20 years ago a couple of the members of the band “The Who” stopped in Palolem and set up a stage and played music. Just hanging around and having fun at no cost to the local group of travelers.
When I first me him I was either sad or a had a little revolt ion at the thought of still being here or returning so many times. But he enjoyed this place and it is where he lives for 6 months of the year. Not a bad idea. Maybe it was his appearance that said,
“I am a long haired hippie.”
a usually young person who rejects the mores of established society (as by dressing unconventionally or favoring communal living) and advocates a nonviolent ethic; broadly : a long-haired unconventionally dressed young person
- Encyclopedia Britannica
The aging process of travelers is not so noble some times. 95 percent give up the backpacker scene and adopt the tourist travel mode as they preferred way to travel. As I get older I admit the constant talk about drugs, drinking, and sort of rebellion is annoying.
Some of the older travelers here in Goa are quite clear on why they do not adhere to a normal lifestyle. The work from 9-5, get married, have 2 children, a fence, with “2 cats in the yard, and life used to be so hard.”
A “Crosby, Stills and Nash, Young” rendition of life. This music group and many others are the purveyors of a social norm of how life is, or could be, or should be, and the world is still in turmoil. Woodstock and the Vietnam War has reverberated down through time in a confusion and glimpses of clarity to everyone since. I am too young for the Vietnam War and the full impact. As is most travelers, but it is still discussed all over the world as turning point. I am not sure what direction people turned after this war, but they definitely stopped and started to question societies value system.
I personally do not think they have came up with better values systems, but a questioning of values is good.
A guy here by the name of Chris Time said last night,
“I think all drugs should be legalized. What would be the harm?”
“Is doing drugs morally correct?”
“What are morals?”
I got my answer from him quite clearly. The idea of good and bad was not considered in his realm of thought.
I refer often to the encyclopedia or dictionary for a more consensual agreement on word meanings, and not my own.
ETHICS OR MORAL PHILOSPHY
- also called moral philosophy the discipline concerned with what is morally good and bad, right and wrong. The term is also applied to any system or theory of moral values or principles.
How should we live? Shall we aim at happiness or at knowledge, virtue, or the creation of beautiful objects? If we choose happiness, will it be our own or the happiness of all? And what of the more particular questions that face us: Is it right to be dishonest in a good cause? Can we justify living in opulence while elsewhere in the world people are starving? If conscripted to fight in a war we do not support, should we disobey the law? What are our obligations to the other creatures with whom we share this planet and to the generations of humans who will come after us? …
From - Encyclopedia Britannica
: payment (as a tip or bribe) to expedite service
I have picked up on an in congruency or confusion in my understanding of Baksheesh in India. I thought this was an annoyance bribe given to help grease the wheels. I have often found that information is only for sell in the developing and most of the world really.
But I have never really seen the relationship between a tip and a bribe, and begging. But what has happened in India is that I have had both the beggar and the extorter of tips say the word to me “Baksheesh.”
I understand the extortion principle. They put me in between a rock and a hard place. Make me pay the extra fee to work my way out of the situation. I am almost an expert in avoiding this situation. I can smell the dead end situation arising, and will not go forward.
For example a taxi driver can get you in the cab. You say where you are going. We drive along for a short distance until I am lost, and then he needs more money to find his way to the correct place, otherwise he has suddenly forgot how to find the place. In that situation I just get out of the taxi and refuse to pay. The cost will be the same and hopefully the next one takes me to the correct place.
But to the association of baksheesh and begging was not so clear. But here the beggar appears to be saying baksheesh. I could be wrong and will continue to research this. I have discovered that the root word of bribe came from a French word or associated word to beg, so there are relations.