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Two Farmers in a Field
I am from the State of Indiana in the USA, I am aware that many people think people from Indiana are country bumpkins.
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Bangkok, Thailand
Khao San Road - Center of Backpacker Universe
Southeast Asia
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Khao San Road
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I realized today I am extremely naïve, I had three people today tell me today it was unfair to expect people to do what they say. I just do not understand, what is the point in talking…
Two Farmers in a Field
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Bob L said on Thursday June 18th, 2009 06:22:34 AM 
Next thing you know you will be expecting people to do their part and support themselves. Or not steal. Or bathe once in a while.
Bob L
CL said on Thursday June 18th, 2009 03:16:06 PM
Whats that old saying You change your attitude and You change your life
Andy HoboTraveler.com said on Thursday June 18th, 2009 05:06:53 PM
The one man also did not like the fact my parents had been married for over 55 years, he said it was not real, and not possible in this world. He said I was fortunate, and I had to finally say it was unfortunate his parents did not stay married, this became obvious.
Sharry Graham said on Friday June 19th, 2009 12:05:34 PM
I am Hobo Andys mom. His dad Jerry and I were married may 18, 1952 which makes 57 years and we have 5 children, 15 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. 9 of our grandchildren have graduated from college, 3 in college and 3 in school. Unfortunately people let you down from time to time Andy because none of us are perfect. I have been reading the memoirs of a lady I do not know personally but do respect very much. This is something she wrote. Try--and o boy, how hard it is- to find the good in people and not the bad. I remembered many years that I wasted so much time worrying about things wrong with my mother. Look For The Good In Others. Clara Barton, founder and president of the Red Cross was reminded of a terrible wrong a friend had done to her. Dont you remember a person asked her. No, replied Clara firmly. I distinctly remember forgetting that.Is not it better to keep a friend than make a enemy. Value your friends. They are your most important asset. Enjoy life.Do not cry over things that were or things that are not. Enjoy what you have now to the fullest. You only have 2 choices. you can like what you have or dislike it . It is best to have fun because no person likes a whiner. Above all, seek God. He will come to you if you look. Now Andy,mom says, you do not have to be pleased about what has happened but please do not take the attitude, My Way or The Highway. It is alright to hold people accountable but do not get carried away in your hurt and anger because you feel another person has not lived up to your expectations. Remember, none of us are perfect and our family has some very sad things going on at this time but we always can see others with worse problems. Count your Blessings and Be Happy. You have a family that will always stand by you and love you and say a little hehe because your sister has a son exactly like you. We all love it.
Andy HoboTraveler.com said on Friday June 19th, 2009 07:01:44 PM
Very good Mom, truly succinct and to the point, separating the thoughts in to compartments, I know that took a lot of work pecking away and looking at the keyboard.
Thanks,
I expect myself to stay sober and I have stayed sober for over 22 years, because I expect this of myself I get it. The great part of countries like Thailand and underdeveloped countries like Thailand is they will allow people to be human, if a person falls drunk on the sidewalk, he is not instantly put in jail. They give many ways to forgive, forget, allowing people to save face in many ways, they never put you under the gun.
However, the great part of the USA is the two farmers in a field concept, it is the idea that two people can shake hands and all that is needed is the shaking of hands, there is a pact formed and it is not negotiable. The tenet behind it is simplicity, simple agree, simple words and just go do it. When all of sudden there is too much conversation, one of the farmers will politely walk back to the house.
Within this is forgiveness, if the other side is not capable, the situation changes, the other farmer would say,
Take care of me when you can.
Fun stuff and naively I live by this standard, I try to correlate what I say with what I do so that people trust me. I say naive, because I must look at it like a lamb, I cannot look at is like a wolf. I must believe the other person even when I know they are acting like a wolf and expet them to become a lamb.
When two farmers shake hands, when both farmers have the ability to perform the task and one farmer does not fulfill their side, there is no need to punish. This is the wonderful part of the handshake, they just part and never shake hands again.
There is also the Christian part of the equation, all things are forgivable if a person ask for forgiveness and repents or atones, and honest, forthright and deliberate attempt to rectify a problem.
I truly do not listen to excuses, if the person has the capacity to perform then I expect the person to perform. I do not accept excuses, this is enabling and the cause of all the stupid problems that happening in the world today.
However, people entered into deals the never planned on fulfilling, the first lesson in negotiations is to not enter into a contract the other side cannot fulfill easily.
We are all adults, if a person says something, if the person has the ability to do it, I will expect them to do it, I do not let them off the hook with excuses, the losers in life want all their excuses accepted without question. It is like shunning, you give a person many chances to come around, then they shun, a great system that is not understood.
I sleep very well at night, however if I say something, I do it, I also search for ways to forgive a person, and always waiting for the words I am sorry. Then I look for the an honest attempt to make good. Too funny often, eveyone wants forgiveness without any pain.
God does this, it is called mercy, coupled with grace.
The best thing that ever happened to me in my life, the courts took away my dirvers license for 10 years, put me on house arrest for one year for drunken driving. I was not forgiven, I had to pay the price. I paid the price that society expected, I gave them their pound of flesh and now I can hold my head high. I have no shame, I paid the price of what they expected. The told me this was expected and I did it.
Friendship is valuable, however, I no longer accept abuse.
Jenifer Jewell said on Saturday June 27th, 2009 01:51:06 PM
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What your mom said, Andy, is something I have also tried to live my life too. In life, we have the ability to be happy or sad. Mostly when we are not happy, it is because something did not live up to our expectations
Once you realize that we make ourselves unhappy when people or things do not live up to our expectations. We cannot control others, only ourselves.
I know someone who is always unhappy. If she was given a wheel barrow full of money, all she would think and complain that it was too heavy for her to push.
These people get caught up in being unhappy and having unreasonable expectations. Its easy to do.
Whenever I find myself upset about something, I ask myself why and usually the answer is that something did not work out as I had hoped or planned. Once you know that all your unhappiness or happiness is controllable within ourselves, then we can proceed to deal with it and change it from within..we can change how we feel but we canot change others.
Everyone is so different and varied on the outside we too are different also on the inside, how we all process feelings, beliefs, fears, hopes, dreams and desires. Once we learn to control our expections we can better adapt to the world around us.
Andy I have been reading your posts for a few years and enjoy your insight and ability to transcend many cultures and languages. Your insights are refreshing and you are truly a window into our world..a world most of us can never experience.
Keep up the good work..be happy and stay safe.
JJ
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