Travelin Man, Beautiful Loser --- I am Not a Monk, Orphan or Hermit

Ahh… the sigh of understanding and insight into why people fear the travelin man.

Maybe I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel, maybe people think I am a Monk or Hermit. I suppose calling myself a Hobo does seem a little too independent. It would not be a red-letter day in my life if I heard my son say,
"Dad, I am going off to be a Hobo."

Recently I had some health problems, women problems and confusion, why, because I am normal person living a normal life. However, readers want to blame travel, they tell me to leave Africa, to go to a safe place, to come home. Please try to understand, I am wealthy man, I am in the game, I am engaged in life, I am alive, I am not coming home, I am a wealthy man.

Monk talking on Cell Phone in Lhasa, Tibet, part of China.

Travel Has Made me Wealthy
I have so many close friends it crazy, because I left home and traveled the planet, I have 30 close friends instead of the normal five or six, and I am a wealthy man.

I have people tell me,
"Andy, you live the dream."
When I hear comments like this today, I am not happy, there was a times when these romantic notions made me proud. When I first started on this perpetual travelers journey 13 years ago I was happy to live the dream, it gave me a sense of pride to escape from America.

I now understand the longer version:
--- "Andy you live the dream, but I am not going to do it."

It took me a few years to realize what happen, on hindsight, I realized that when I left my family, friends, and job, many people were angry with me, there are few of my close friends that are no longer friends because they are angry with me, I believe they feel,
"Andy, why did you desert us?"
"Andy, why did you leave us?"
-- "Stay gone."

Somewhere in this song, is the secret story of a travelin man?

A Few Old and Close Friends Never Stop Making Snide Remarks
When I return home to visit, these are good friends, close friends for years that start with small cutting and hurtful remarks, in a way they are saying to me,
"Why do you come home and remind me you left me."
"If you are going to leave me, then stay gone."

"I am not an Orphan."
Do we have abandonment issues; are you afraid of being alone?

Monks live together, they are not alone

There are so many misconceptions about my lifestyle, I did not leave my friends, I am still with them, I am always part of a bigger group, I am not a lonely traveler, I opened the door to the world.

Ho, Ghana West Africa --- Saturday, February 12, 2011


Monks have a connection, they are connected to people, they have friends, normal lives and the life is not about giving up life, it is about opening up our lives to new worlds.
Monk Playing Counter Strike War Game in UlaanBaator Mongolia Internet Cafe


Johnny the Private Pilot Called from Dubai
I got a text message on my local Ghana cell phone.
"Turn on the TV; Mubarak is going to resign as President of Egypt."
I am in Ghana, he is in Dubai, tomorrow he could be anywhere and so could I, however the world is small, and we became friends in Sosua, Dominican Republic.

Mark in New York Calls
Mark calls my USA number, which forwards to Skype, then forwards to my Ghana cell phone number. I can see his name on the cell phone panel.
"Hey Mark, what are you doing?"
"I am on the way to the winery."
"What are you doing?"
"I am sitting here with Bah, watching bad Ghana TV soap operas."
I had the phone to my Ivory Coast girlfriends, she is somewhat amazed, talks a few minutes with Mark, I have introduced Mark to Bah, and Bah to Mark.

Johnny said; turn on the Skype video, so I can see her.

Mom Talks about Taxes
I call my mother, she has accepted I am not very far away, she instantly says,
"You need to do your taxes."
"Ok, Hello Mom, how are you?"
Just as if I was next door, she wants to remind me to do my taxes. I ask her about the freezing weather in Indiana. She ask a little about what I am doing, but she knows, I am ok, I get off the phone, call my Accountant in Florida, check with him, then call her back,
"Send the paper to Jack, the address is the same."

Morning Meeting with Boy Genius in India
Every morning I have a business call with my coder and friend in India, normally we talk over Yahoo Messenger, we spend a lot of time talking about Iphones, Smartphones, and all the new Mobile toys, and then sometimes we talk business.

I did not become a Monk, when I took off traveling, I opened the door to the world, instead of staying home, I went out to meet with some friends.

Work from Home People are sometimes Orphans
What start this story is funny, I was reading how a business allowed employees to work from home, work independent and on the second page, I read this:

"The key criteria was that laptops, and their users, were no longer to be treated as "orphans of the enterprise network" with a subset of the features available to desktop users, Doyle says. Instead, they were to become extensions of the enterprise, with the necessary applications, connectivity, management tools, remote control and security."
Bringing Orphan Workers into the Group

John Cox the Writer of the Above Quote
I want to thank John Cox for empathizing and making business and real live accessible by writing in a adult and insightful way about real life.
John Cox

Nobody wants to be told to leave home, go out and make money, we are broke, this is what a Hobo did, it was a post war, depression time, they took off looking for work, and some of them ran away from home.

The world is connected, when was reading this page, I was doing research on my Mobile Office page, a page explaining how I stay connected, and often I am more connected than you are to my friends and family.
Mobile Office

8 Dollars Hotel in Ho Ghana - Tarso Hotel
If you think you have financial problems, think about this, there is no way I am having any problems paying my mortgage or rent. I have a private car that takes me from my door to wherever I wish, it cost me 1.50 cents here in Ho for my Chauffeurs, it is called a Taxi, not parking problem, no maintenance, and I have as many on call as I wish.

Does the song make you want to live?

I live in Paradise, one little problem and people say,
"That is not Paradise."
I think to myself, you have arrived in Paradise when you do not dream about leaving, who is dreaming about leaving, me or you?

Often the food I eat would be called a delicacy and only served in Fine Cuisine restaurants, as an exotic food, to me it is just normal life. When was the last time you ate "Lait Caille?" and spoke French with he waiter, I did it last week.

Travelin Man, Beautiful Loser --- I am Not a Monk, Orphan or Hermit


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When I first returned home from nearly 4 years around the world in the summer of 1980 I had the same situation with my old friends and realized their attitude was more like, "hey turn UP the TV or turn off this guy's enthusiastic appreciation of life". I thought I was just trying to tune them into the amazing opportunities available to average blue collar, working class Americans but in doing so I made my friends feel introspective. Then I had to admit I may have been "ego tripping" and by doing so made them more aware of their failures and inhibitions to GO FOR THEIR DREAMS instead of settling for LESS and allowing themselves to slowly get stuck in a rut which in time they'd accept as their lives.

Andy you are DOING YOUR THING and doing it WELL like you have mentioned before, better than 98 or more of the bloggers and internet writers which are accessible on-line. Life is seldom perfect and anywhere on earth where humans reside can NOT be considered "paradise" as it's our human nature to crave for more out of life or even the unattainable in this short time we have on earth. Of course you've had some problems SO WHAT? even the most energetic and happy people are faced with problems everyday they wake up or have convinced themselves otherwise by using any of several psychological tricks to claim their life is free of problems. It's all in our heads! Writers like yourself are no different than anyone else other than you choose to share your inner thoughts, mood swings, loves and dislikes and philosophy of life with others. PAIN isn't so bad, it REMINDS us we are ALIVE and without it how could would identify pleasure and comfort??

When I was a teenager I wondered why the Russians were so intent on keeping control over their citizens lives. If people want to leave why not just let them. After many years of using my company's transfer policy to move around the States I can see that even in the States there are many who get angry when they find you are leaving. For some you are suggesting you don't like their hometown enough to stay on. For others it's maybe an act of defiance of the pecking order. Don't like a jerk boss? Move on. I for one have always been a good employee. I'm also as big as a football lineman. A few times over the years I've had bosses much smaller than me who seem to enjoy pushing a big guy around. Same guy suddenly is super nice when you put in for a transfer because he knows your good numbers are leaving with you. Should have thought of that before but they never do. Telling him no, I won't change my mind is for a short time giving me a little bit of control. I've got a few friends that I stay in touch with, lost a very good one to cancer this year. Most people I meet anymore never become good friends once they realize my plans for full-time travel. They just aren't interested or they are very critical. It's surprising to me the really strong feelings expressed concerning patriotism, racism, and just doing anything different. For me though spending the rest of my life in one place working to make someone else wealthier while I squeak by, never seeing new places, would be incredibly depressing. I can barely tolerate what I do now, but it's necessary until I get the pension in 6 years.

Great way of saying what I am feeling,
"hey turn UP the TV or turn off this guy's enthusiastic appreciation of life".

"by doing so made them more aware of their failures and inhibitions to GO FOR THEIR DREAMS."

I do not want to motivate or inspire people to travel, however it is always nice when I learn why people have fear, I believe people are afraid when they leave home, the only way to travel is to become a hermit and give up all the pleasures of life. When in reality is absolutely the opposite, I have 10 times the number of friends and get to partake of any pleasure on the planet, not just my home city.

It is not wise to inspire or motivate people to travel, I just wish to explain my life, sometimes in a more dramatic manner, but authentic, real, and in balance. Then if somebody wishes, they can understand a person who tells how it is, no sugar coated wrapping.

Travel Writers love to sell sugar coated travel stories wrapped in impossible dreams, to glamorize many times a very normal life, because they travel less than five days a month, and the rest of the time, write about the five days.

I know many alcoholics, you can tell them anything, if they want to quit they will find a way, if they want to drink, they will find a way. Therefore motivation and inspirational talk is not going to make a person do a lifestyle change.

Paradise is a place with no regrets.

I agree that it's a bit unwise to try to motivate people to travel, in the sense that it doesn't come of much use. I used to go on long rants about the joys of a lifestyle abroad, but people quickly tune out, or feel upset because when they see others pursuing dreams so fervently they believe that they are somehow inadequate --- I totally disagree with this. I know many 'successful' people who are in better shape / make more money / etcetera, but they have only achieved these things because they have found their passion, and passion quickly becomes priority. Their passion just happens to be one that others value as a sign of 'success'.

Even with the many difficulties that come with living abroad, I still consider my life to be pretty easy. I am so inspired to live in different countries, it is more difficult for me to imagine settling permanently in one place than to keep country hopping. People say I am 'lucky', 'strong willed', 'brave', etcetera. Yet, the fact of the matter is that people will only do what they really want to do, what they make a priority. If you know what your goals are, and stand firmly by them, all the difficulties immediately become easy in retrospect as you move closer to your goal.

So it's kind of a moot point to try to inspire people to travel who say they would like to some day -- if they really want to, they will. So I no longer discuss the vague joys and benefits to a life abroad. I'm much more interested in connecting people with opportunities, showing HOW they can do something, rather than WHY. If they really want to do it, they will.

After I had traveled most of 4 years. I wrote that I was coming home and I felt like people would miss me writing and would forget I was at home because I was no longer in their every day routine and they forgot to call me any more. So I started to feel like they missed me when I was at home and just thought about me as a traveler writing from afar. But they seriously don't have much to do with me when I'm at home. I'm off the grid. So glad to hear it happens to other people too.

I bought a house to get the rebate and now am trapped here for 17 more months and then I'm never living in a purchased property again. I haven't even been to Central or South America yet, so will go there as soon as the house sells.

Strangely I have pictures of that same monk in Lhasa. I don't agree that Tibet is part of China, China is delusional. Tibet is a separate country and you can tell by the fact that they are so different than people in China or any where else on the planet. In spite of what's happening there they seem more whole than any other people I ever meet. I wish I could have stayed there a while, but the delusional Chinese had another schedule for me.

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