Though part of being 100 percent free and complicated by infinite choices is that you can always return to the places, the people that you know and like. Traveling is a gambler's game, we leave good people and fun places in the pursuit of other ones, but only one in ten times will we hit the jackpot. But, unlike gambling, we can always return to reclaim our investment. Go get her!
The word "free" like the word "love" mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people like "Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" in the Janis Joplin song lyric. In that way I guess I'm not headed to "enlightenment" enough to have nothing left to lose because I am attached to a few people and some possessions. Millions of people living in impoverished nations are FREE resisting rules laws and government regulations but sometimes this stubborn attachment to freedom can be translated to "FREE to be POOR". Like everything is life some sort of moderation enhances the outcome from one's choices in life.
You're wise to not risk going overland through the Ivory Coast aka Republic of Côte d'Ivoire but I don't know if paying so much for a charter flight is the best choice unless you really feel like splurging. Did you check out going around it like through Burkina Faso and Mali, maybe a side trip following the Niger River up to Tombouctou then south through Guinea to Liberia? Small World you're planning Christmas in Ghana and our old friend Joseph from Ghana showed up here in Manila late last night from Singapore and will be staying with us a 2 or 3 days a week for the upcoming weeks.
To be good travel advice, you need the price, "With no price, it is not advice, it is an advertisement." My six year old Lonely Planet says it is 30 dollar, or triple my normal budget. Having a Bar and Dance floor is not a bonus, I live on the road, I am not a tourist, I need homes, plus how do you stay on a budget, when you do not use it.
I doubt I will end up in Kumasi, I am not fond of big cities anywhere, just magnifies all the problems in life, and Ghana has enough problems, sort of Nigeria with a twist.
I am pretty great here in Ho with a 10 Dollar room in the Tarso Hotel, quiet, no bar, but a big television room and smiling receptionist by the name of Ivy. The taxis in Ho cost 50 cents if you are strict and tell them the price, not allow them to tell you the price. I have seen a few white people, the one I met Jack was wanting to work as a Missionary and on AIDS, I said,
"Well you are not alone."
--- "Project du jour."
For me what makes up at least half of the experience is the people I experience and the bonds that are formed, the fast friends that we make and the ties formed through adventure travel. Sharing the experience of Culture Shock with another traveler or being the backpacker that locals typically identify with and being the one that gets the 'behind the scenes tours' leads to very special memories that are always available. I try to write about the experiences so that they wont be forgotten. I have an email address book with people from all over the world that I still talk with frequently and some people that I have gone literally to the other side of the world to see. It is not te same as the first time that you met but it is definitely an adventure!
If you feel that you would like to see her GO!
That is the point of travel! Changing your plans to follow a female that you click with-whats wrong with that? I have stayed too long and gone too far more times than I can count pursuing something real.
Unfortunately with over 12 years of Perpetual travel experience, I have trouble relating to other travelers or tourist.
For example, you use the word "Adventure" loosely, I do not feel meeting another traveler as an Adventure. An Adventure is something done whereby, I could be killed, like bungee cord jumping, it is a Travel activity that not everyone will do.
This extensive thought or introspection causes me problem, it is seldom I meet another "Tourist," I close to never meet a traveler.... I never meet a tourist who lends me enough insight to help me learn.
I met two girls here in Ho, Ghana yesterday, the one was doing research, the other flew to meet the other from Botswana. They became annoyed when I asked the cultural question of how the men hit on them.
This is not politically correct, and they hedge, I wanted to understand the mating of men in Ghana as opposed to the USA culture. I feel the men are extremely passive when towards sex, but very aggressive in territory issues.
WOOOPPS over their heads, and they cannot be objective.
They are involved, therefore it was too personal. I can get a Ghana person to be more open than another Western Traveler.
I would not talk wth them in the USA because I would consider them sort of silly, why would I engage them here, they did not give any telltale signs of true intuitive understanding. They was here to pack their resume.