I am Pretty Set in my Ways

"You have your way. I have my way.
As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist."

- Friedrich Nietzsche

I am pulling your strings, it is impossible for a Hobo to become pretty set in his or her ways, because the way I used to do it was left at the last bus stop. The world traveler one day accepts the old ways are "gone with the wind."

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This is Kellie; she is the daughter of Maria who manages the Las Palmas Hotel in Grand Bassam, Cote d’Ivoire.

I am afraid, that Cote d’Ivoire --- my Ivory Coast, the culture I knew and loved is gone with the wind.

Ghana, West Africa --- Saturday, April 2, 2011

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A little girl in Port au Prince, Haiti, this building collapsed in the earthquake, the place where she is standing is no more, and it is gone with the wind. I am not sure, is my friend alive or dead?

Today is Tomorrow
I can't think about that right now. If I do, I'll go crazy. I'll think about that tomorrow.
-- Scarlett, in the movie "Gone with the Wind"
Today is tomorrow in Ghana for my friend Bah, she can no longer think about it tomorrow, she is thinking about Cote d’Ivoire today.

On Wednesday, she talked by cell phone with her sister inside Cote d’Ivoire, and was told that the Alassane Ouattara rebels had removed the windows and doors from her mother’s home. Bah started to cry, it was the first time she truly cried since the rebels stole her mothers home. A month earlier, the Alassane Ouattara rebels took Bah’s mothers home, with all of Bah’s clothing, possessions, and the Certificate of Graduation, what was Bah’s, is now possessed by the rebels.

I asked her,
"Why are the windows so important?"
Bah says,
"Without the windows and doors, I can never live in that house again."

Cote d’Ivoire a.k.a. Ivory Coast
But as some countries open up, others shut down.
Paul Theroux - New York Times

My friend Ray contacted me on Yahoo Messenger, pointing out this link. It was a pleasant and ironic interruption, sometimes life has too many paths, and sometimes we need pointed the way.

To be releases around May 1, 2011 or something like that…

The Tao of Travel
Paul Theroux has written another book, "The Tao of Travel: Enlightenments From Lives on the Road," which will be published in May by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

OK OK OK Paul I see the Sign
I am holed up in a room here in Mampong, Ghana, with a Cote d’Ivoire girl; I have vowed not to leave until I finish my first book. There are people who point the way, we are not obliged to follow, however, wise and well-traveled Hobo knows, it is best to observe all signs along the way.

Kumasi Market inside Bus Terminal

Camptown Race
I am lying in bed, Bah is walking around the room, suddenly she starts to hum and sing a few lines from the song below. Now, the world is a small place, it can even be considered lonely, but how does a girl from Cote d’Ivoire know this song is way beyond the reach of my imagination.

I am Pretty Set in my Ways


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Hello Andy,
Please convey my feelings of sympathy to Bah with a hug and the wish that her family will all right and will prevail in their struggle ... Take care !

Sorry Bah lost her stuff, but in the end Bah is still Bah and no one can take away one's self (unless of course you let them). My prayers and thoughts are for her and her family. It amazes me how the luck of the draw influences who you become and what you do in your life.


I would like to send my sympathy to Bah as well. Tell her that we are so concerned about the Ivory Coast and I can't tell you how many people have mentioned it to me and they have no idea that I get these e-mails from you.

Please tell Bah that we are praying here and our hearts break for what her and her family and her country is having to face.

Be well and God Bless you both!

PS, I sent my website, my art name is Miera. Children I baby sat for many years ago couldn't say the name Mary and called me Miera instead so I decided to use it for my art name.

I myself am ready to bloq about a quarter century in Latin Ameica, with the exception of 5 months in the USA 1989 to 1990, I am neither a mercenary or missionary, my M is me!
I am not faint of heart, bleeding heart, do gooder or goody two shoes, the latter do not last very long in places such as Central America, I volunteer to help to help, however if I gave a dollar every time to every beggar who asked me, it would cost me $150 a month or so and I would be financing drinking or drug habits, as well adults send out their children to sell things or beg on city buses, if a child, say, gets arrested for pickpocketing or stealing they are usually sent home and just start up again, so the beggars on the bus routes I take just walk by me now, one, who was deported from the USA, apoligized to me one day for being 'obnoxious', now we have a pleasant short conversation, the residence homes for recovering Alcoholics and Addicts run by Evangelical preachers send people like my bus friend out to sell pens and candy all day, all profits go to the 'church'.
At any rate am seeking for my bloq, people who have good, funky, down to earth travel stories about Central and South America as well as Africa and SE Asia and Eastern Europe, good, bad and ugly:
The more bizzare and unique the better so:

I have been an 'ex pat' in Central America for nearly 25 years now and
am putting together first a bloq then an e book, which you can either
print out or keep on your laptop while traveling, in 1986, in
Guatemala, during the civil conflict, there were many tour operators
who were afraid to drive visitors up to the Highlands, so I started
driving to Lake Atitlan and the Highlands as well as nearby Antigua,
my original offices were but a table in an 'ex pat' bar, during the
early 1970s when I first visited Central America (had a relative and
friends there so was easy for me to adapt) I became a 'society hippie'
and co owner of tiny restaurants in Lake Atitlan Guatemala. "Between
and betwix the skeeters(mosquitos) and the skaters(those 'ex pats' on
the lam from the law up north). "Life in the Tropics"..anyone with
some good Central American adventures off the beaten path, from 70s,
80s or 90s, or recently, please contact me, as well as adventure
stories, updated travel links shall be included for any type of
traveller or those wishing to relocate, work or volunteer in this very
diverse region. Send me a message, I'll send you a sample.
E mail send me a p.m. on hobotraveler
Have 'MagicJack' able to call you in USA from Central America

Would like input from both long term travellers and volunteers as well
as Ex Pats and 'retirees', would like input from the good, the bad and
the ugly, as Latin America is not a 'theme park'. Saludos a todos, me
le espero con gusto su pronta respuesta.
I saw genocide in Guatemala when I was a Medic/interpreter in the 1980s, we saved as many innocent civilians as possible, in my case, not because I was a 'do gooder' or had a 'politcal agenda', did not and still do not, it was because my maternal Grandfather died in the Nazi Holocaust in Europe, hoping in BAH s case the situation with her family does not escalate any further, it is all about power, money, religion, victims just get ground down until they march in lockstep or accept 'Islam' or give up all their belongings, is Ghana letting in refugees from Cote D'Ivoire, where is the "UN"????? Guess you are BAH s anchor now, better than a refugee camp for her.

Hello Donald Lee or TropicalGuide

You used three "Travel Dictionary" terms I have never heard before:

"became a 'society hippie'

"Between and betwix the skeeters(mosquitos) and the skaters(those 'ex pats' on
the lam from the law up north).

Society Hippie

I put them in the Travel Dictionary, but need better definitions:

Andy Graham

Occasionally all through the years in the Philippines I try to imagine and picture the hordes of the masses attacking those with rooves over our heads, money in the bank and food in our cupboards and what actions I would not take easy but fight to survive using any method available. We don't have guns and never have had but sometimes like Mao said all power begins from the barrel of a gun. I do keep a few baseball bats around in various places and don't think any intruder armed with only a knife would scare me much. What's more scary are any individual or group who has absolutely NOTHING to LOSE because with that type halfway measures are not good enough, the only thing to do is go ALL the way. Guess nobody really knows how they would react until the moment arrives.

Traveling around Sri Lanka after their 30 years of war I noticed many houses like Bah's house which had been stripped of all windows doors and roofing with only the concrete or red brick shell remaining, like a war zone.

Probably a good idea for you to vow to yourself to buckle down avoid distractions of going to a new continent of country and finish that book GOOD LUCK! Anyway I remember your original frustrated comments about people in Ghana and now your whole mood has changed and rightly so as you're livin with love and mellower as a result. Effects me the same way if it's been too long.

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