How do People Suffer in Ghana and the USA

I have many people in Ghana say,
"Help us, we suffer."

I am jaded, and aware that this comment can mean two things:

1. Give me money.
2. Feel sorry for me and help me.

In the USA, they will say the same thing in a different way,
"I am too busy."

The malady of the planet is the enabling of dysfunctional comments.

I have a three-step program for myself:

1. Shut up.
2. Listen up.
3. Grow up.

Ho, Ghana West Africa --- Wednesday, December 22, 2010


I had a couple days of feeling sorry for myself, fortunately it must pass here in Africa fast, because there is nobody here who gives a shit. The last thing a person from Ghana does is feel sorry or help an American, I am just shit out of luck.

How do people suffer in Ghana?

1. Waiting for the whites to return.
2. Waiting for the whites to save them.
3. The blacks outside of Ghana refusing to help or invest in Ghana.
4. The Ghana rich people refusing to invest in their own country.
5. The minute a Ghana person has money, they move to another country.
6. Becoming educated for a job where there is zero demand.
7. The belief that sports is a solution.
8. The belief that Ghana is poor, it is a rich country.
9. Asking for help, this affirms their belief they cannot help themselves.
10. Being surrounded by 51 countries that believe the same.

I have the rewarding experience yesterday of talking with a truly wise and understanding old woman. She reminded me of my Grandmother Fleck, she is now dead, but I remember a weak and terrible day of my life that I shared with my Grandmother. I came home from Jail; I was arrested the night before for drunken driving, and had spent the night in a fog. It was my third or fourth DWI; I do not care to remember. I do remember that it was the two strike law in Indiana, which means after the second one, you go to jail for two years.

I told my Grandmother of my sad news, she listened, she consoled me, and she said,
"We need to eat breakfast now."

My Grandmother was part of what could be called a great generation:
"The Greatest Generation" is a term coined by journalist Tom Brokaw to describe the generation who grew up in the United States during the deprivation of the Great Depression, and then went on to fight in World War II.

I was an alcoholic, a true bunch of losers. Nobody feels sorry for drunks, and rightly, so, they should not, they are losers.

My Grandmother gave me startling lesson that morning in Indiana.

She did not say:
1. Shut up.
2. Listen up.
3. Grow up.

She went into action, she got on with life and stopped focusing on the problem, she never lost stride, she stayed the course, and she suddenly became part of the solution.

I sat there eating breakfast wishing she would feel sorry for me, while she gave me another cup of coffee.

Now, for all you abusive shits who are going to jump on me admitting I had problems, get a life, your comments will just be deleted. It is sick person who wants to kick anyone or make fun of people who is or was down; you just ignore bad as best you can. I always think of the Brits, when I am listening to an American say,
"I am too busy."
If I reply, agree, or give it credence.
"It is bad form."

Merry Christmas, the world has so much to be grateful for, it is amazing they can find so many problems to complain about.

I felt sorry for myself because I have too much time, and I am bored, I need a good book, I am going to Accra to buy a book, or I could say, we need to eat breakfast now.

Now focus, please focus, do not get a sense of self-righteous importance because I told you a story of my shame. You are not better than me, I am not better than you, but I am on an endless vacation, what have you done today? Did you tell someone,
"I am too busy?"

How do People Suffer in Ghana and the USA


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Mood swings are part of living life and all of us experience them some more often than others. Your grandma's "get on with life" attitude followed by action is nearly the same as the Zen master code more readily lived than explained verbally. We teach our daughter various ways of manipulating her own mood swings suggesting comparisons between herself and her former classmates or people she knows personally. I refer to it as "taking a break from oneself" like the old LSD influenced cliche or song lyric, "outside looking in" . it always helps to put oneself in the other person's life and mindset to understand their reaction or attitude about any issue in life.

In my teens my family became members of a fundamentalist Baptist church where in some of my more formative years I was indoctrinated by the minister, the church members, the Bible school teachers, various traveling evangelists and various Biblical verses. Years after I broke away from such groups and their ideologies when I formulated my own individual faith in a higher being I realized that living one's life a day at a time with a smile on my face bears greater witness and sharing of faith than preaching verbally. In high school I read or rather skimmed through, "The Greening of America" in the wee hours to finish a course assignment. It spoke of our grandparents' and parents' generations and how CHANGE of any sort would NOT come quickly nor via mass following but slowly individual by individual choosing to change their action on a day to day basis throughout their life.

Go Forward never straight with a stiff upper lip and enjoy life as an incredible wonderful experience.

Andy, Are you really on vacation? You are living life just like someone going to work every day. You have same fears, doubts, boredom, resentments, etc, don't you?

I have traveled a good bit and realize that travel in and of itself is not the dream I make it out to be. After a few days, life is the same (and yes, very different, too): same issues because all issues have nothing do to with geography (or very little) because all issues originate with my thinking.

Love your travelog and I hope you find a good book and have a HOT Christmas.


A person that is retired has all the normal emotions.

Vacation: Time spent doing anything you want to do...I do what I want 99 percent of the time, still experiencing normal emotions.

I do not allow things to enter my schedule that would make me feel rushed or busy, but some bears are smarter than other bears.

I am getting on a bus this morning, I do not want to get on Buses, Planes or look for Hotels, and read maps. When they invent a perfect world, I will sign up, until than, my life is always a little out of balance and trying to teeter totter correct is the art.

I almost got a DUI in Thailand. Wrecked a motorbike and spent 3 days in hospital.

When I went to get bike out of the tow yard was told to go to police station to get
release papers. There they did a investigation....

Cop: Where you drinking ?
Chuck: No of course not.
Cop: Why you crash ?
Chuck: Dog ran infront of bike.
Cop: OK fee for close case paperwork 1,000 bhat
Chuck: Yes ,sir thank you sir. Kapoon krap.

Thai justice, we both left with a smile on our faces..........

"As you walk and eat and travel, be where you are. Otherwise you will miss most of your life." ~ Buddha

"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present." ~ Babatunde Olatunji

all the best


After my DUI in the 1970s, hitting bottom, I joined the 'club', then called my Mom, who said only three words 'It's about time!'
Got a lot to be grateful for, friends, a roof over my head, a pension, life in the tropics, never perfect, but beats shoveling snow and paying high rents, auto insurance, heating oil bills and more bills. This morning ran my errands and took teh rest of teh day 'off', too many crazy drivers out there 'celebrating' the holidays. Thanks for all the posts this year, love some of em, didnt like some others, but all in all enjoy reading someone online traveling who is not pc and not saving the world. Amen.

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