I believe there are three rather problematic human behaviors.
Now, I am not responsible for you; however, I want to be an expert on how I should live my life.
Two Great Problems
1. "the withholding of forgiveness of others." Read
-- I am under the impression, the other person needs to ask for forgiveness.
2. "the negative or condemnatory judgment of others, particularly when they are in truth." Read
-- I think this means to gossip, or trying to make a good person appear as bad, maybe because of jealousy, envy, or for manipulative reasons.
Third Bigger Problem to Me
3. I think to cause two humans to argue, this is to accept, and take on the job of the devil, more or less to become a partner with him, maybe her... hehehe
All problems are waiting for solutions, and once you know there is a problem, then you have no excuse when you allow the problem to remain. Fun stuff, and definitely a slippery road to travel.
Life is Good
If I wrote a book to parents about not letting their children play on the freeway and mentioned that it is fatal... it would not be me issuing the punishment... there would be no deliberately administered punishment. It was just a warning that such behavior is fatal.
I see violation of the commandments in the same light. I think we self destruct on our own... encouraged by others, perhaps the 'dark side' so to speak, and the culture.. and our own human nature.
There is no need to blame god for what we so dilligently bring onto ourselves.