I have three types of friends.
1. Friends who always are having problems, and I need to either stop being their friend, or let them vent for five minutes, then have fun with them.
2. Friend with no problems, and tons of time to talk.
When I talk for an hour, or two, and we are talking about ideas, hopes, dreams, small problems, and for laughs, and I do not hear any resentments in their voice, I feel good.
3. Friend, however they are too busy to talk.
- I do not call these friends often, I declare this "no joy."
Military Definition: (DOD) In air intercept, a code meaning, "I have been unsuccessful," or, "I have no information."
Bottom line, when I am with a friend, or talking on Skype.com with an American, and we can discuss all the things on the planet, and they enjoy my travel writing, then I am in heaven. I enjoy listening to all their fun problems.
Often I have a few friends who say, where are you? That tells me something about my friend. Normally they care, but they are too busy to really care
I think a good friend is a person you can call up, and they have something new to tell you, and you talk for 1-2 hours.
Andy Lee Graham, a rich man in friends, and grateful.
Hmmm, I have friends, where I must take incredible amounts of care, or they will feel guilty, when I talk about subjects, this is annoying, to try to remember all the subjects that could accidentally set them off.
Anger and Love are great, but too much, and it is time to change the channel.
I am amazed at what people will tell you, with no filter on their brain, if the feel safe.
Andy Lee Graham
RichGedney from has written 48 comments
I have some on the Friend / Acquaintance teeter totter. I will call them or email them thinking we have become good friends only to receive a one line email or very short phone conversation. Then the next time we will talk much longer. Very strange.I try and keep the Buddhist principle of not having attachments which helps me when so called real friends let me down.
e-greg from has written 7 comments
I really don't like developing friendships over the web, as I do not trust the privacy of written conversations. I am even suspicious of Skype. Face-to-face is best for me, as providing info to 3rd parties, or those who can intercept conversations, is not my idea of developing close dialog. We live in an era in which nothing is private online and so people seem to care. I am amazed how many people spill their guts on public software forums bearing their name. Friendship is about trust to me. I think you understand that.