How Do You Trust Anyone

Hello Sarah,

I am an honest person, therefore I trust people, I see it as being possible. I have learned the world is about 80 percent liars, therefore I check them...

I am not sure trusting others is needed, I think trusting myself is needed, I was having a good laugh when this girl here in Togo said she was looking for a man who would not have sex with other women. I asked if she could name a man here who is like she wants, she said she know of none. I asked her to telll me the name of a women that has sex with only one man, she could not name one.

I said, then I assume you are not capable of being loyal and fidel because you are from Togo.

The whole culture works and nobody trust anybody, I do not see trust as being a necessary need of love.

Trust issues are about being hurt, a person that is worried about being hurt, does not trust, they do not want to be hurt again. I on the other hand assume that everyone will hurt me or let me down and when they do not, I try to bring them closer, and allow them to get closer so they can hurt me more. Love requires a belief and a willingness to be hurt.

None of this is important in the end, I find the people who love me, never leave me, even if I am bad, does not happen much anymore, but I am recovering alcoholic and have lost many friends, now I have an overabundance.

Trust everyone, check them and test them, and do not invite them all home for supper. I sometimes think that people do not trust people are not trustworth, but then who really cares, not important in the end.

Andy in Atakpame, Togo West Africa.

Thanks for much for the speedy response!  Much
appreciated.
I feel like your responses beg more questions, i'm
very intrigued. But I'll leave you to traversing the
globe.  Where are you from originally?  I sensed an
accent in your responses.  How do you afford to get
around and how do come to trust anyone, for that
matter?  Ok-enough, I said no more questions, I'm not
going to bug you any further.  :>

Thank you very much.
Sarah

Thank you,
Andy HoboTraveler.com
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