My Five True Friends in Life

My Five True Friends in Life
People say,
“You’re lucky if you have five true friends in life.”

The world is a Spin Phase of truth and friendship, if you do not spin the truth, you are not trusted or liked.

Bangkok, Thailand - Khao Sarn Road
Saturday, August 23, 2008
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I had a Troll trying to annoy me today; I delete three comments from this anonymous reader for just being mean spirited. However, the one glimmer of constructive value to the person’s comments was a reference to me having disdain for tourist. I know I have disdain for tourist, I often have disdain for readers, and I mulled this one over for a while. Why do I have disdain for tourist and readers?

I think in a nutshell, I will have “Five True Friends in My Life.” Moreover, the truth is, the tourist and my readers are not these Five True Friends in my Life.

If you read articles on how to write, there is always some section on how you must have respect for your readers. I have dwelled on this for years, and the problem is this, what happens if I do not have respect for my readers or again tourist?

I do not think advice on writing wants me to have respect for my readers.
“I would tell my Five True Friends in My Life the truth."
Their advice is on how to have everyone love you at the expense of the truth, spin everything until you never know what is real.

I will tell my readers the truth, so maybe I do have respect for my readers, I truly believe they can learn, they are smart enough, they are capable of knowing.
“I do not love you.”
I am writing what I think, not what I know you want to hear.

I write many a blog post, soon to be 4000, I know that readers come and go like fleas, they have a life expectancy. The reason they leave is truthfulness, I do not edit my thoughts, and I do not spin them to make them sound warm and fuzzy. One reader said by email to me,
“You are hardcore.”

I think he liked me being hardcore, I was laughing to myself, and have realized the few readers who have really met me, I think only one has liked me, all the rest are not my true friends and feel I am hardcore, I do not say warm and fuzzy things to them, I am also hardcore honest in real life and this does not make casual friends.

However, I suppose I am looking for my Five True Friends in My Life, and I think I am up to about eight now.

A true friend in my view wants to know, you will always be honest and frank, even when it is a risk of losing a friendship. I try my best to talk to my readers like a true friends, I do not try to spin it, fuzz it up, glamour it up, I do not try to win your friendship by saying what you want to hear, I try to be like a parent or best friend. I try to tell you what you need to hear.

I think my disdain is for the readers and tourist in my life, who really want me to say,
“I am a Nomad, and find beauty in all the wonderful people of the planet.”

They become angry when I tell them the truth, nothing hurts worst in life then hearing the unwanted truth.

However, sadly I am not a Nomad, I do not have enough money for that yet, and for sure all the people on the planet are not even close to wonderful, however if I look real hard, open my feelings, try to listen to the quiet people, I do find every once in a while a person with a truly noble spirit. These are common people, the ones who are quiet, keep their mouth shut, listen more than they speak, the ones who put in a long days work, goes home and hugs their kids, and for the most part are ignored by the world, the common man. Nobility and honesty, the good people of the world are not famous, they want nothing to do with fame, they are above that type of insecure love.

I find many of my fake friends want me to be nice; they want me to write in a way that would have readers flock to read. They want me to be famous, so they can say to others,
“I am friends with a famous person.”

Fame is a fickle friend, something that last five minutes in life, while a true friend could last forever. I blog and write about my life and the places I visit, it is my honest diary of my life, my life unedited, just a few things left out… hehehe

I want you the reader to respect me, saying something like, he is real pain in the butt, however when he says something, it is the truth as he sees it.

My Five True Friends in Life


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One of the main reasons I read your blog is because of your point blank honesty. Keep it up.

Bob L

One of the main reasons I read your blog is because of your point blank dishonesty. Keep it up.

Disdain, thanks goldman of nyc, a great example and 100 percent on topic in an off topic way.

Reader often do not look for ways to contribute, they for ways to spin and argue, the same as the New Media teaches them. They are products of the present generation where spin and dishonesty are more acceptable than honest statement.

He for sure does not trust me, he believes I am point blank dishonest. My essential point of this blog, the majority of reader only trust the spin artist, or people who write to get the approval of readers.

Thanks golden of nyc thank for volunteering to be the anonymous troll you are.

I miss the old newsletters. Are you ever going to do those again?

I will be doing more newsletters, there is a picture problem, I have too many. Trying to arrange a solution, sorry, I should be doing them.

I often get in trouble for telling the truth. A German acquaintance one said "Why wouldn't someone be direct and truthful that is the most efficient manner with which to communicate." I wish most Americans felt this way.

I have learned to say "that is interesting" as a replacement for something that might be offensive. The word "interesting" is just blowing smoke and allows the individual to save face for the word "interesting" can mean many things.

The Germans are maybe the closest to being direct and honest on the planet. Remove their superiority complex and we would have good situation.

USA is about 29 percent German, more, as far as I know still the largest country of origin.

The USA is right behind Germany for direct speech and honest, then it goes downhill from there.

French, a real problem

Asia, not in this life time

South America and Central America, including Mexico, forget it.

The more primitive the culture the less direct, I think direct conversations are dangerous. So in countrie where the law does not function and morals do not function safer to just keep your mouth shut or always lie.

Germans have a lot of rules and laws because they are very violent race of people. They need honesty or the other Germans may kill them.

Indirect speech is spinning and lies, what people of the world really want to hear.

Error here on post, deleted by accident.

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I like your blog because it is the antithesis of "turismo", as Ed Abbey liked to call it :)

Hi Mr. Andy,
Sounds like youve come across that breed of folks we call "fair weather" friends. Not a bad sort, as far as that goes. The drinking buddy or the fella you tag to when needing numbers for a mutual convenience. Just not exactly the breed you call when the weather turns stormy in a mannner of speaking. Say for instance, that buddy you can call when you get in a verbal contest with a belligerent cop and you need to be bailed out..ahem. The gravy is while doing so, the friend defends your name and honor in the process. From another viewpoint, tact is being able to tell someone to go to hell in such a way they think they will enjoy the trip. Apparently, not a skill I quite have a handle on as yet.
Good luck in both farmboy.

Hi Andy,

I have been a long time reader of yours, I wish I had the balls to do the same as you. Everyday I dream being a hobo as you are but I'm to coward to quit my high paying job.
Also would be nice to see more reports on the ladies industry, you should stay in nana rather than khao san craphole.

Nana... hehehe, I sometimes think of going over there to have some conversations with Adults. Then again, everyone over there makes me feel so old if I talk with them. I come to Bangkok to buy tickets, everything is cheap near Khao San Road and near Nana about double, I have one goal when in Bangkok, buy tickets and re-stock, maybe eat.

I stop by every now and then though I often don't leave a comment. I keep thinking that maybe you're too busy to read comments :)

O.k. so your writing isn't perfect and yes, sometimes it's a little difficult to understand what it is that you're trying to get across. But I must tell you that you have one very interesting, informative and honest blog here, Andy. I like the fact that you don't really sugar coat anything. You write very directly and to the point. You write about real life - something to which we all can relate.

So many of your posts leave me saying, "Hmm...that's interesting. We do that here in Jamaica too" or "wow! I didn't know that."

Anyway, congrats on almost reaching 4,000 posts.I can attest to the fact that 4,000 is a great accomplishment. I got to 368 and stopped!

Blog on Andy.

I still have another 40 to go or so, then 4000, but coming up soon.

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