Why People Are Not Friends

I made a post about squat toilets, and one comment was:

Anonymous said...

Andy you are a f!#$king idiot and I am embarassed that you represent travellers.

I am always amazed or bewildered by the why, what happens to a person. Here is some person that has no need to read the post, can easily just avoid any and all information blogged or posted by me.

Yet, they proceed to be pro-active in trying to provoke or scream their thoughts.

I am concerned about cruel or harsh comments. I see that I sometimes write or type in harsh feelings, that do hurt peoples feeling and makes them angry. I try not to write in my journals when I am observing more negative situations than positive, yet of course it sort of lie to myself to avoid thinking.

I am just a traveler, I do not represent travelers, I am not happy about the Travel Writers that write articles to make people happy, sell tours, and steer people in the wrong way for money.

However, they have people that want to fantasize or read what they write, I am not very concerned until they give information that could hurt a person. A person paying too much for a room is not hurting them, not helping, but is not hurting in a long term mental problem type of way.

I think of my Mother, it almost make me cry to think, what would happen if she needed to use the squat toilet, because she had no choice. He legs are old, she is weak, how could she do this? It would be a sad feeling to suddenly know, or realize, a person must sit down on the floor, then ask another person to come and help them.. maybe if there is help.

The knowledge and experience of the world lives in the minds and bodies of the older generation. They are the persons that need to go to under-developed countries. Not the young hippie dippy bunch, they are young, they have little to give.

The Peace Corp is full of young and energetic people, yes this is good. But how can a person of 20 explain to a person of 50 how to build a home or plant a garden, or many other task. You need experience, however deep in the recesses of the older person mind they wish to explore, to share, to show their love, to give back what they received. But with experience we learn to be afraid, we watch TV, the new, the horror and all the other crap the media throws at use. We remember every way we could be hurt.

I sometime think the only complicated part of traveling is to figure out how to eat a clean meal, take a clean shower, and use the toilet.

I like to take a long walk in the morning, however I must go around in a circle or never stray too far as there are no public restrooms.

I think the older persons of the world know, there is a solution to all problems. They should help by sharing the solutions with countries that need some help. In the end learning these small intimate and normal parts of another persons life allows us to see how we are the same, and not different.

I do know it is a sad world when a person goes out to try to provoke or call people names when they could just walk away and end the thoughts.

Why people are not friends is because we talk too much and listen too little, maybe we always believe the other person does not have a right to say their opinions. I slowly learn how not commenting to my friends makes us better friends. I learned it is not my job to change my friends.

As for representing travelers, I do try to be the best example of an American of a Human of a Civil person when I enter and leave a country. There is a world of difference between what I blog and think and how I treat the person around me. I can totally disagree with a culture and still know, I do not have the right to change people. I may know better, however I keep learning, normally in 90 percent of cases, I do not.

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Craig | travelvice.com said on Monday July 3rd, 2006 08:10:00 PM

Well said.Hey, I thought you were going to stop reading the comments? :)//craig of travelvice.com

Anonymous said on Monday July 3rd, 2006 08:21:00 PM

Some people make you happy by coming others by leaving is true on the web too.

David said on Monday July 3rd, 2006 11:41:00 PM

So what exactly is offensive about the previous post?

Anonymous said on Tuesday July 4th, 2006 06:29:00 AM

Oh and on the Squat toilet thing that was good info...useful and unbiased :)

ash said on Tuesday July 4th, 2006 07:13:00 AM

I am impressed you put a picture of a toilet on a blog and explain how to use it. This is information I really wanted to know when I went abroad, and Noway was Lonely Planet going to help me. Until I left my home and got in a plane, I did not even know what toilets they use in India. It varies, I know now.Some people have always told me I am 'old for my years' I don't know why this is, but I know I enjoy hanging out with people older than me. Because I like to learn. Young people can teach us too, but not so much... maybe they teach us to be enthusiastic.

Anonymous said on Tuesday July 4th, 2006 02:33:00 PM

'Anonymous' your post was spot on. This 'Andy' guy has some serious issues and spouts a lot of crap amongst some occasional snippets of good info. Generally it is a painful read as you say.Also, for a world traveller he sure spends a lot time hanging about in Thailand and Philippines, hummm! I wonder!I trust my right to comment is not met with abuse.

ash said on Wednesday July 5th, 2006 08:09:00 AM

Anonymous: you do not have a right to comment, you have the privellidge granted to you by Andy. Whether you think you have a right to 'freedom of speech' is irrelevant, because this site, nor any other, falls under no constitution. Further, even if it did, you do not have the right to insult or indulge in libel. One right you do have, however, is to choose not to read something you dislike. I would suggest you don't waiver this right. I, of course, don't speak for Andy. But I like and respect him, and I value and respect what he writes here, even if I don't agree with it. I want to travel, and I do... for me, reading the writing of someone who travels a lot more than me is like hanging our with a Master Carpenter if you want to be a carpenter... listen, learn... say thankyou.

Andy HoboTraveler.com said on Wednesday July 5th, 2006 08:50:00 PM

Interesting comments.Craig, you are techie. I must moderate a small amount. I wish to remove the word F#$%k it will hurt my google.com indexing. Problem, blogger.com does not allow this type of edit, and become complicated. I can moderate by receiving emails. I have stopped receiving emails or moderation pre-, now I am doing in a post pattern.Reading. I have an unlimited GPRS cell phone access. It is in these periods I look at travelvice.com. I do not pay to read extra, I would love to receive in my email box.Bangkok: Greatest base on planet to buy plane tickets. I have changed my travel methods. If you really figure it out, I also have a girl friend in north Thailand working on her masters at the University.Philippines: More or less my base to relax, speak English, use the 24 hour connection in Station 168 to call the USA.Antigua Guatemala is now maybe a new base as I have the same connection there.I suspect that Jakarta will be a future base, I wish Singapore had good internet acccess as the plane situation is great.Germany is a plane base, however too expensive to live or hang around. I believe Casablanca could become a base if I like the culture...aagh.I unfortunately have a business now and need to do certain business ideas.Idiot... Interesting, I must deal with my blog, but a person that thinks I am Idiot does not need. The logic seems interestingly absurb, of course I read my blog.Conservative or liberalNote: I almost never read a blog, seems like a rediculous way to learn. I read for entertainment only, however only when I do not have to pay by the minute.This GPRS connection in Thailand is great. Cost is less than 5 cents per hour.Craig are you anonymous?I see a lot of control issues and anger issues.What does make me sad is this type of controversy and anger makes me more money. I do not like to sell anger to make money.People seem to like to read the negative of life.NOTE: I consider my blog very boring.

Craig | travelvice.com said on Sunday July 9th, 2006 12:13:00 PM

A fun little chain of comments here.Andy, nope, not "anonymous" -- I have no issue disclosing who I am when I take a moment to comment.I agree that the Blogger commenting mechanism need many more features, something the dev team seems to be overlooking.US$0.05 per hour for a connection?! That's fantastic! This done by hooking your laptop up to your cell phone, correct?Travel on...//craig

Kozi Wolf said on Friday July 14th, 2006 08:40:00 AM

I see you as an open-ended scientist. Scientists have a responsibility to tell the truth as it is, whether it be positive or negative, it's just the way it is. They observe and repeat, and try not to get involved too much in the analysis process.Thanks for observing.